Thanks to everyone for their posts. But I think that maybe I need to clear up a couple of misconceptions or miscommunications here.<P>First, regarding the Internet porno: Yes, I personally find these sites demeaning, but my main concern is that the kids will stumble onto them on the computer. The fact that my husband uses them irritates me, but I'm not stressing out about it in a major way. No more than I would if he were to bring home Playboy or Penthouse or Hustler. I don't understand the need my husband has to visit these sites, and I find it hypocritical, to say the least, in a man who professes to be a Christian, but I don't think that the visits are, in any way, a major problem for our marriage.<P>Second: My husband and I have, and always have had, an active sex life. It's not like I am refusing, or have in the past refused, to participate in sexual contact, or limiting him to once or twice a week, or less. We have sex regularly, and I am a willing and active participant--I just have my own, personal, restrictions on what I find to be "acceptable" practices. <P>What I am concerned about, is that my husband wants to engage in sexual practices that I do not feel comfortable with. These are things (and I'm not just talking positions) that I have never felt comfortable about, and that I feel even less willing (if that's possible) to participate in, now that I know that he did them with the OW.<P>I guess what I'm feeling here, is that I'm being "pressured", to do things that the very thought of almost makes me physically ill, in the hopes of meeting my husband's "sexual" needs. I guess what I'm feeling here is resentment that my husband's sexual needs should take precedent over my own personal beliefs about what is wrong or right.<P>I guess I wasn't really looking for answers, just trying to vent a little.