Thanks for all of your responses...<P>Actually, my husband and I, both as a couple, and individually, have been in counselling for almost a year now (simultaneously with my husband's EMR, BTW). <P>Over the past year, my husband's interest in these various sexual activities, or at least his talking about them, has continued to increase...<P>Over the past year, my husband has gotten involved in a very emotional, and very sexual affair, and lied to me about it...<P>During that time, our own relationship has (surprise, surprise!), despite counselling, with two different counselors, continued to get worse and worse...<P>I guess you could say that I'm really beginning to doubt the effectiveness of counselling for helping to solve the problems in our marriage.