Originally Posted by SusieQ
Originally Posted by KGaa12
In a text conversation DD18 had with wife DD18 basic position is that since turning 18 we treated her like a child placing restrictions on her and generally not approving of her relationship with this male.
From my reading of this thread, your DD is right.

Originally Posted by KGaa12
My wife and I position was that we only reacted to her behavior and advised against a relationship that we viewed as unhealthy for her for reasons DD18 admitted to.
This kind of response is going to drive your DD further away. Is that what you want?

You could have just said:
You're right, we're sorry.

Yup. If you don't want to drive your daughter further away you must start doing what Dr. Harley and the others have told you.

FWW/BW (me)
WH
2nd M for both
Blended Family with 7 kids between us
Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.