He wants to keep someone on the sidelines just in case. You are his back up plan. If your XH was serious, he would be.......SERIOUS. You can see he is not serious. You could be using this time to find someone who is a better candidate, who is serious. This guy is NOT. If he were serious, he would move heaven and earth to get you back.

"It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt

Exposure 101