I've been dealing with living with a narcissist for 12 years. I met my husband at 19 and got back together with him after almost 30 years later. They say hindsight is 20/20 and if I would have paid attention to what went wrong the first time, I would have never married him. He lies about simple things, never shows empathy to anyone and is so bigoted (I'm mixed race) that even my friends don't know why I stay with him. I had 2 beautiful dogs that I had to give away because they did not behave "perfectly" for him. He has alienated every friend he has ever made and now he says I'm his only friend. Our relationship for the last 10 years has been more as roommates because he has no interest in sex. 10 years is a long time and I have not had an affair yet even though I've have offers from guys that I train with. I'm in very good shape and am friendly so there are no traits that would make me less appealing. No matter who is at fault, I am always blamed for anything that happens. I was just blamed for putting an extra spoon in his bowl even though I was nowhere near it. This sounds callous, but if I didn't think he would die soon and I'd have access to the retirement account we have built, I would have kicked him to the curb a long time ago.