Hi Jim, Dana.<P>It's hard to believe that in less than 4 weeks will be the first anniversary of the wife's betrayal. I remember that night when I found this site and the welcoming & soothing words by you, Jim.<P>Back then I never thought it was possible to survive one night, let alone a whole year. I am now happy that although many of us couldn't (none in the divorce section though) rebuild our marriages, we are growing into better people and parents.<P>I know the feelings are not totally gone and that's one of the reasons why I don't lurk as often anymore. I am finding places and powers within me that I had totally forgotten. And yes, Dana, I am in good terms with the soon-ex, I mean "shut" happens and then we're still parents, partners and... yes, friends!!!<P>The best for you.<P>Alex<P>------------------<BR><B>Live fully and always learn</B>