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Warning: This post contains excessive bragging!

I went to my 20-year class reunion this past weekend, and it made me feel pretty good about myself!

Since my divorce, my life in the world of dating has been less than perfect, to say the least. I am constantly questioning whether or not ANYONE would want to go out with me. The reunion gave me a much-needed ego boost.

You see, I was a wallflower in high school. I was even voted the "most shy guy" in my class.

I didn't go to prom, never had a date, and most of the girls from the "in" crowd never paid much attention to me.

So imagine my surprise when one of those girls (now a very attractive single woman) wound up coming on to me at the end of the evening!

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I politely turned her down (I'm not one for one-night stands), but the situation taught me a lesson:

Never, ever count yourself out! No matter how terribly unattractive you may think you are, SOMEONE out there wants you!

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cjack, good for you! I can relate. I was a wallflower in high school too, though I didn't act shy, I acted out instead - sort of class clown type behavior. I didn't go to the prom either.

I remember several years after high school when one of the guys from the in-crowd about 3 years ahead of me in school asked me out. I went. It was okay, kinda boring really, though we went to a concert of Creedence Clearwater Revival (I'm dating myself tho' my sig. line tells it all anyway). It made me realize that the "in-crowd" were just people too. None of us is "terribly unattractive."

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CJACK!!!

Good to see you. Glad to hear the news. There is nothing like having your self-esteem given a boost.

Glad it was a great experience. I guess my class will have another reunion next year. My, how time flies.

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cjack,

glad you had a much needed ego boost at your
reunion..

Tell me something...what made others the "in-crowd?" was it because they were cheerleaders and into sports, so everyone knew who they were??
Was it that they wore the newest fashions? What was it that made them, in your opinion..more in crowd, than who you hung out with???

I knew all the cheerleaders, and football players
I was friends with most all of them..my brothers
were both into sports so they all came over to our home..my sister dated the star quarterback..
but I wasn't impressed by any of that..to me they were flaky as all get out..they thought going out and getting drunk or high every weekend was the thing to do..and thought because everyone knew 'who they were' they were special..but the truth be known--I had more 'friends' than they did..yes, people knew who they were..but they didn't know them..and they didn't know the other people..they were too self absorbed to pay attention to anyone else..when I went to my 20 year reunion, they came up and asked who was that who just said 'hi' to me?? they didn't know who they were..and they went to school with them for
years..

So tell me, how many people in your school did you know? how many were your friends? your friends were the 'in-crowd' they may not have been the most popular..but they were probably just as well known around school..as the cheerleaders and football players..they just weren't the center of attention--

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Hey CJack!!!

Nothing like a good kick in the [censored] to get your self esteem going. When I was going thru the [censored] years ago, my son [T2] was my partner on the ambulance. The staff would look at us going back and forth and ask if we were brothers!!!.

The Kid got a kick out of saying "Nope, that's my Pop"!!! Brothers??? I'm 21 years older than the kid. Boy, that felt good. No one still believes that I'm 43. I refuse to grow up. Peter Pan syndrome gone bad. Gina keeps on saying that she has 3 kids.. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> I behave badly. Oh, and today is T2's 22 Bday.

No, ok maybe 3, but's that's it grey [me] , all my hair [no "M" thing going on], not getting slower, driving a hotter car than both my kids, kicking [censored], and not taking names. It slows me down on the names gig. I look younger, I feel younger, and I act immature.

Maybe she was looking for a two night stand? Is that ok? Just asking.


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