Lady M,

I agree with you completely. Betrayal is most often not about something missing in the marriage, but something missing in the betrayer.

I realize that some betrayers do articulate their needs or their unhappiness, but many do not.

Yesterday my H emailed me and said that he was going to be working too late to take the kids on Friday night for the next couple of months, so he wouldn't be taking them until Saturday on his weekends with them. I don't mind - but the kids certainly did - not that they will ever tell him. I am guessing that the "couple of months" will likely become semi-permanent.

I am here alone tonight with four kids, two of them with high fevers, on my 20th anniversary.