Well Baby Blue, I at least made you laugh, and I hope you are cheering up somewhat with these stories. You know as I read them, it's like living a surreal experience. I loved Utterly's one about the light, and the freight train. When reading these things that WSs have said to us has anyone asked themselves, hmmmm "could I have said some of these things and meant them?" and then I think......NOOOOOOOO!!!! So you see the surreal thing hits me. Not on my worst day could I think of quipping some of these bizarro remarks back at my mate!! Sheesh.

well when i asker her why she cheated she said"you know why"( i couldn't even get a little hint!)but the best was after it was over.she said i couldn't touch her until i had complete trust in her.like she would know what trust is!!!!!and how would she know if i did trust her.her answer... she wasn't being bad anymore so i didn't need to check up on her.
and a favorite is "i promise i wont hurt you ....again"sorry you aleady broke that promise.try again!
oh,one more...she said she would never cheat again ....as long as i treated her the way she wanted.is that a threat??????

Sad but true - the following story shows how much FWH was in the fog and forgot almost everything he knows about me.....While FWH was in detox hospital, we had a counseling session after I discovered he was calling OW from the hospital where one of his big gripes about me was the decorating I wanted to do in our house. His biggest example and most strenous objection to it all was that I wanted a baby grand piano and that was outrageous to pay that much money for a "piece of furniture" to "look nice and just take up space." I think my response blew the counselor away but never even sunk in with FWH - "The reason I want a piano is that I took lessons for 13 years and play quite well! In fact, for my Senior Recital in High School, I played a Haydn Concerto. I want a piano for my own enjoyment and so that I can give our son piano lessons."

Brit's Brat/BS-41
FWH-43
DS-13 months
Status: One Day At A Time

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Baby Blue:
<strong>

What are some of the craziest things your WS said to you in an attempt to justify their affair??

</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">My favorite was probably (when he told me he wanted a divorce) "I don't like the fact that you know me so well and can always tell when I'm lying."

Another justification - "There was that one time that we were dating and we got in a fight and you told me to F- off." That had been 5 years previous and happened one time.

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by dazedblonde:
<strong>On DDAY my husband sent email to OW -
Am staying home sick today - talk to you tomorrow
XOXOXOXOX

This, after I asked him if he loved her and he said NO!!!</strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">I suspected something was up within afew days of it starting. When I asked H if he was having an affair he said "Absolutely not! I'm not that stupid. Everyone knows that affairs just cause big messes. Do I really seem like the type of person to have an affair to you?"
Then I asked if he was attracted to OW and he said "No way. She's dumb as a rock, immature and not particularly attractive. She has fat arms. Besides, even if I was, which I'm not, I am way too old for her."

OK, I have new ones.

My W says she is not having an A. OK, I said to her, if it isn't an A, what do you call it? Her response? Silence. Finally I broke the silence and I asked her, "are we legally married?" She answered yes. "There then," I said, what you have is called an affair.

My W says the OM is not her lover because we are not really married and there was never a marriage between the two of us because she was never happy and didn't know what she was doing when she married me.

1. "It wasn't an affair bc you knew about it"

That has to be the stupidest thing h has ever said (and lately there have been some doozies!).

2. "She wants us to work things out as much as you do"

ok maybe that's the stupidest.

3. "She saw me with the kids and doesn't want to interfere with that"

hmmmm...how bout stayin the f away from my man then?

4. "She is NOT a slut"

no, she's just cheating on her live-in bf with another woman's h!
ok i provoked that one--heehee.

5. "She didn't want me to tell you about it bc she didn't want your feelings to be hurt"

hmmm..so cheating on me and then telling me a lie that you know i'm going to see thru is supposed to make me feel good?

<small>[ December 15, 2002, 01:58 AM: Message edited by: lostbuthopeful ]</small>

My WH told me that the reason he didn't have feelings for me anymore is that I didn't like to garden, couldn't go mountain climbing with him, and got angry when he smoked grass! WHAT????

When OW and I talked for the first time about the A, OW told me to my face that their affair had nothing to do with me! They both loved me and when they started the affair, they said "how can we do this to Patti, we love her"!!!! AGAIN...WHAT????
BH

It's been great reading these! Alot of alien talk going on, here are some of my favorites from WH.

1. "You have smooth legs, she has nubs." (one of his reasons for coming back to me after 3 days with her!) ...guess he liked the nubs, he's with her for 6 months now! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" />

2. If I could do this without hurting you or SSon, I would, but unfortunately I cant. (no kidding Sherlock!)

3. In an email to my son, "I did what I thought had to be done." along with..."Im not ever going to claim who was right or wrong, only that it had to end."

4. In an older email from my g/f (OW) when I was getting anxious about their too close friendship, she replies "I don't even think your H is attractive!" <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

5. "I dont know what you did the night you stayed in a hotel out East two years ago." hmm..I wrote for 6 hours in a journal about YOU!

6. My favorite.."You will never trust me again!"

Just a few to mention!

<small>[ January 07, 2003, 04:46 AM: Message edited by: Baby Blue ]</small>

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Baby Blue:
<strong>Well, Okay! If we're going to start this up again... </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Baby Blue,

See what you started? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Let's see... some recent ones:

He doesn't want to put up with the cra+.... when referring to being around me or our older son... who both want him to be sorry for how he hurt us... he basically doesn't want to hear it...! anything negative or about how he has acted is cra+

What else?

He was never happy with me - Now that one is so far from the truth it is insane.

He will let me come over to his house as long as I do whatever he says. He wants a woman who will do whatever he says...

Does the comment above explain why he got along well with his maid? who barely spoke the same langauge as him? He pd her for her services, and she thought he was some 'rich' american man, at least on her standards... UGH!

Enough for now, I have many more... H

<small>[ January 07, 2003, 04:47 AM: Message edited by: Baby Blue ]</small>

BB- It is hard... my counselor is en couraging me not to pick at ws, whic h includes talk of the A.. in order to survive... sometimes we can't talk it all out...

I know it seems reasonable to resolve, but maybe you can talk and then forgive and let it go.... find a resolution and let it go.

We are still seperated, one of my h's fears .. he has claimed is that .. I will ne ver let this go.

Hugs, H

<small>[ December 16, 2002, 07:27 AM: Message edited by: Honey ]</small>

<small>[ January 07, 2003, 04:47 AM: Message edited by: Baby Blue ]</small>

H giving child advice:
Treat women with respect(our son) U are mean to mommy is that respectful?

H to D don't ever let boys be mean to u and never belive them 100% they are probbly lying.(d)
Do u lie to mommy ? no not all the time <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

H said, "u where no fun to be around after your mom died u where still upset after 2 weeks I mean get over it already"

And my favorite it wasn't my fault I had A after the baby u got to FAT and was always taking care of kids <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" />

It wasn't like I was enjoying myself it just happened and it was going on to long one thing just lead to another and it was to hard to stop it I had no choose

My WW's latest and greatest to date:

What are you trying to hide from me??

bump..for those that think they are the only ones hearing such things....

My Sweet Lord,
If I could only remember half the b*llsh*t he has said to me.
I am now going to try and remember.
There were a few just yesterday.
Hmmmmmm.....
I'll be back
xo
2nd

Thanks for having resurrected this thread - going through it made me chuckle and laugh at more than one places! Awesome thread.

Anyway, here's my list of favourites:

1. “that’s what I hate about you – you are so indecisive” (when I hesitated whether we should go to restaurant A or B). 10 mins later: “that’s what I hate about you - you never discuss things with me and involve me” (when I suggested: let’s go and eat in restaurant C)

2. “Stop calling it an affair” (what is it then? A pink elephant? A red double decker bus?)

3. “I think you are having an affair” (shortly before d-day. And no, I wasn’t)

4. “You should never have opened my email account. That was a huge breack of trust.” (ooops. sorry. wont happen never again, honest.)

5. “I really love your honesty, the sincerity of your feelings, and I am and always want to be honest and sincere” (in letter to OM)

6. “I don’t want to hurt you” (tough.... You actually do, when you’re sleeping around)

7. “I always have the best of our daughter at heart – she’s my first priority” (oh yeah? So why don’t you, as a start, let her phone me and don’t tell her that ‘the phones aren’t working’ when she is crying for me?

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