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Laurie,<BR>My parents were also married many years,,54, when my father died 7 years ago. My mom has been lost without him and mentions every once in a while about the day when they can be together again. I have always looked upon their marriage as my goal.<BR>They married young, both 19 and had kids right away. They "held tight" (my moms words too) to each other through poverty, a draft and a war, a childs extended illness and death, a move halfway across the US away from all family, new jobs, layoffs, teenage children, retirement and cancer. When my dad was weeks away from dying, he and my mom sat in the backyard on the swing, and he told her "Honey, we have had a wonderful life together. I love you and I'd do it all over again if I could." <BR>Was their marriage perfect? No,,but they rea;lly loved one another and clung to each other tighter when times were tough. I asked my mom once about infidelity. She said she didn't know what he may have done when he was overseas but he came home to her! And, in her mind, that was enough proof for her that he loved her. She has had many uplifting and inspiring stories to help me through my difficulties (some I can't put on this forum ) but if you'd like to email,,I'll share them with you. My parents marriage was my example and my goal. My H and I are on our way after 30 years. A few setbacks,,,like ALL marriages,,but we'll make it!!
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Glad this was pulled back up, I missed it the first time. It gave me goosebumps too... all the more so because my folks have been married 53 years, & my dad has been treated for prostate cancer. Could have been them!<P>When we entered the "Misery Olympics" years ago with my affair, Dunc & I visited my parents only weeks after it had started... obviously things were tense & unhappy between us (tho Dunc didn't "know"); and I mentioned privately to my parents that Dunc & I were having some "large marital problems"... their faces were sad & sympathetic (and I suspect that this was a hurdle their own marriage had endured), and my dad said: "sometimes, in a marriage, you just have to put your head down and *get through it*". In other words, hold on tight. I've never forgotten those words, and they've served both of us well.<P>Bless my parents' hearts - they probably assumed Dunc was cheating on ME, but they never pried, they never treated Dunc with anything but love and respect, they never encouraged either of us to whine or blame. The older I get, the more I realize how wise THEY are. (But one of these days, I guess I ought to set the record straight for Dunc, huh? )<P>My mom just had a heart bypass on Sept. 15th & is doing fine. Laurie, thanks for a wonderful thread. I second the notion that a "Golden" website would be wonderful. Anyone got ideas how to do it?<P>------------------<BR>~suse~<BR>Rome wasn't built in a day.<BR>
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Oppssss,,sorry, double post,,I'd like to blame it on the computer or the forum,,,but I"m afraid it's ME!!!v<p>[This message has been edited by Nerlycrzy (edited September 26, 1999).]
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Beautiful! 'Nuff said!<P>------------------<BR> Love is meant to heal. Love is meant to renew. Love is meant to oust all fear. Love is meant to harmonize differences. Love is meant to bring us closer to God.
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