Hello Pebbles.

I'm glad you like your class. Have you learned all their names yet? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" /> I can never remember names. One of the reasons I told WH I'd never make a good teacher. But he left me anyway! No sympathy.


How are you feeling about this? Make sure you give the kids plenty of sugar and food additives before you send them off on that special day. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

Congrats on the 3 month anniversary. What a long thread you've created in three months! People just love talking to you, don't they? I'll be thinking about you Thursday, too.

{{{Pebbles}}}

Alph.

Hey Pebbs! you sound busy! which is good!

How are the kids taking to the fact they will be meeting MOW this weekend?

And if you check on my thread, there are stuff going on at the IL's... karma??

~A

Class already?? DS8 doesn't start until September 7!

Talk to you tonight.

Hi, Alph.

Actually, I knew all but two of my students' names before school started this year. It's a very small school, and many of my students this year are younger brothers and sisters of my former students.

I feel rotten about the kids meeting the skankylosaur, even though I know it will probably throw a wrench into the affair. Sugar and food additives, hmmmm... <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" /> I could also keep them up very late the night before, so they'd be tired and cranky as well.

Thanks for thinking of me, Alph. I see you are working on your Plan B letter. I don't post often on the threads of others because I don't feel I have much helpful insight to offer, with my life going so swimmingly and all. I do read many of them, though. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/crazy.gif" alt="" />

Hi, Ashley. You sound busy, too. It sounds like, in your case, your ILs are a help to your situation. That's great!

Well, I don't know for sure that they will be. I just approached the subject as they might be meeting her sometime soon. They are not looking forward to it, but they don't really talk about it. Maybe something will come out at the group counseling Thursday.

My daughter's teacher (a coworker/friend at my school) told me she started reading a novel to the class, not realizing part of it was about a dad leaving his family without saying good-bye. She felt terrible and worried that my daughter would be upset, and asked me if my daughter had mentioned it. Nope, not a word. It worries me that the kids don't talk about their dad, even if I bring up the subject. It makes me think there must be something more I should be doing to help them.

Hi, Sleepless.

I know - it's crazy! It seems to start earlier every year. My son started school on Aug. 17. Daughter and I started Aug. 22. It is still over 100 degrees here, although it's about 40 below zero in my classroom. I have no access to the thermostat. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

Hi, Pebbles.

So are the kids going to meet John's wife this weekend?

If so, I think that the only instruction you should give them is to call her Mrs. Lastname, and that they are not to call her by her first name. Make sure that they understand that the Mrs. designates that she is already married.

Other than that, I would let the sparks fly.

God bless,
Gimble

WH picked up the kids for their overnight tonight, after us not hearing a word from him in a week. He did not call our daughter to see how her first day of 5th grade was and he did not attend Back-to-School Night to meet her teacher.

WH came to the door, instead of waiting in his car by the curb as I requested. I was closing the door behind the kids, me behind the door, when he called to me, "Do you want me to take DD to school in the morning?" I thought to myself, "Well...duh! How else would she get there? Magic?" Both kids told him, "School!" WH then called to me again, "But do you want me to bring her here or to school?" The kids had walked past him by this time. I could tell through the peekhole that he was trying to look around the door. I probably should have just closed the door, but I said, "School, please." As I closed the door, I heard him (almost scarily) cheerfully say, "Okay, I'll do that!" So, I guess I gave him his fix?

I won't see my son until after school tomorrow. At least I'll get to see my daughter in passing at school.

Tomorrow will be seven months that WH has been gone. The longer he is gone, the more likely it seems that he will be gone forever. I am glad that school is keeping me so busy right now. The first week or so is always exhausting, especially with the temperature over 100. I wonder if he ever thinks of us.

Hi, Gimble.

I will remind the kids to address her by her married name. Other than that, I'll trust them to handle things as they see fit. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Actually, I'm a bit surprised he has not introduced her to the kids already. Maybe he asked my lawyer about it when he called her to complain about me 'harrassing' his 'friends and family?'

According to the court order, he could introduce them tonight, if he wanted to. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/tongue.gif" alt="" />

Hi, Pebbles.

I wish that he wouldn't do it at all, but all bets are off on that part.

I can't even give that one a good guess at this point. There is a lot of negative things taking place in their relationship thanks to your interference <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

"Kids, I want you to meet this married woman that I plan to sleep with in the next room sometimes while you are here visiting, okay?"

I would really hope that he is not so fogged or stubborn that he will at least limit his exposure of a fantasy gone hellish to his own flesh and blood.

Sorry I couldn't leave you on a more encouraging note tonight.

God bless,
Gimble

It's not that much different in the corporate world. In the morning, it's warm and after lunch, I'm rubbing hands together to generate heat. I just thought they were trying to keep us awake after lunch! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/laugh.gif" alt="" />

You've been busy lately young lady. The life of a teacher. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

I mentioned that DS8 was rolled from the waiting list onto active student in under a day. I love those guys! You didn't respond to my last message, but if you want a good laugh, check out the one I sent you today! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />

You'll laugh. BTW. Road trip in April.

I hate to admit I'm not up to speed..... but I will. How do we know that MOW's husband is named John!? I obviously missed a day. Do you know him Gimble??

John needs to be strung up by his ears for not controlling his WW better.... did I say that our loud?? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/shocked.gif" alt="" />



I think that's very polite Gimble. I think that's a fine idea. Your son can ask questions like, "It's very nice to meet you, did you bring your husband along too?"
<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Daughter can be distracting daddy by asking, "What's a skankasaur"? We sent our 5 year old son down to ask our 15 year old "S18, What's a hicky", while S18 was sitting next to his new girlfriend. I thought WW was going to pee her pants! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

Those sparks are going to look more like Roman Candles.

{{{{{ Pebbles }}}}}}} I never do that, but I'm sorry. My wife's brain is firmly held at the mother ship, so I'm in a different spot than you. Rent the Parent Trap the night before they meet the Skanasaur. It's educational!

I know it seems like hope is lost, but you know his affair can't last! He's bound to come around

I don't know if they are actually helping since BIL have not actually spoken to WH yet. But I know they are terribly disappointed with his behaviour. And currently as it stands now, they are probably making WH feel rather ostracised.


It does sound worrying... I hope they are doing OK, or will be able to cope alright. I don't have kids so I can't bring good advice unfortunately.



Been 3 mths for me.. but it does seem a long time.

My oldest and best-est friend has migrated to NZ many yrs back but she has emailed me constantly due to this issue with WH. We have another old guy friend who is still living here. She said she has spoken to the guy pal K yesterday. K said he's been trying to get hold of WH too. K, WH and my best friend's husband used to be the 3 musketeers. And from K's wife, I know K has been very sad abt this recent turn of events.

But both my best friend and I know that WH will continue to avoid his old friends. It's amazing how much a conflict avoider he is!!

Don't freeze in your classroom!! Maybe you shld come over vist me here at the equator and soak up some sunshine <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

~A

[quote]But both my best friend and I know that WH will continue to avoid his old friends. It's amazing how much a conflict avoider he is!! [/
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My WW seems to think I'm the only one that has any friends left. She's been isolated. She did it to herself! If she straightens out her act, she'll discover her friends are there praying and hoping for her.

well Sleepless, my WH has at least one friend.. it's OW! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" /> Many people are praying for my WH.. we do recognise it's something God has to work on and something that's quite beyond humanly possible actions at this point.



~A

Hi, Pebbles.

I wanted to check in on you and see how it's going.

God bless,
Gimble

Oh YEAH! I wonder if my WW has resumed E-Mailing OM19. I hope not for the kid's sake. Well at least her mom is moving over this month. Sorry I'm going to miss that!! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> They can go talk about what an evil man I am.

(Threadjack!!)

Where's Pebbles? Hope you're having a good weekend. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

Hi, Ashley, Gimble, and Sleepless. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

I'm still around. There's just not too much happening in the WH department, so I haven't had much to post.

This may be the ADs talking, but I am feeling much stronger emotionally. It has also helped me to be back at work, where people like and respect me.

I guess I feel like I have "me" back - or most of me, anyway. Now I truly feel like no matter what happens, the kids and I are going to be okay. I worry about the kids a lot more than I worry about myself at this point.

I've been thinking (in my convoluted, over-analyzing mind).

I like(d) being married (okay, I am married, but right now I don't really have a real husband). I miss having someone to come home to and have dinner with at night. I miss talking about what happened at work and talking about the kids and their antics. I miss having a husband to go places with and plan things with. I miss the companionship...a lot. I miss feeling 'safe' because there is someone bigger and stronger around who cares about my and the kids' safety. I miss having someone around who will throw out moldy bread because it creeps me out, and who can change the oil in the car. I miss having a husband to do nice things for, things to make him smile at me. And, yes, I miss having someone to be 'intimate' with (a lot!), or even just hold my hand in church.

BUT...I'd rather be alone than with someone who doesn't want to be with me. I can't make my WH love me, and I don't want to spend my time pining over someone who doesn't give a *&%$ about me and actively tries to hurt me and my children. I would rather be alone than with someone who can't be a good example for my children and show my son what a good man is like.

No, I haven't totally given up on my WH yet, but I think I have finally embraced what Plan B is supposed to be about: focusing on me and the kids and our lives. If he decides to extract his head from his nether regions, I'd be willing to listen, but it would take a lot, at this point, for me to let him back in our lives.

I won't delay the divorce, if and when it starts to move along, but I won't hasten it, either. I have loved my husband with all my heart for a long, long time, but I won't wait forever.

That's how I feel today. Will I feel this way tomorrow? We'll see. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/rolleyes.gif" alt="" />

Welcome back! Boy am I slow on the uptake. I must have missed your thread each time it rolled around, because this is the first time I've seen you were here again. {{{{{{{{{{{Pebbles & Co.}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}