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Re: Old Newbie's post. Where are you truetoself #1363626 05/24/05 03:13 PM
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Rocked Member R Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 484	Am I hearing you correctly? Pre-A you felt balanced. Dedicated and loyal to only each other. Post A you feel unbalanced cuz he has experienced what you haven't? (Has the "one up" on you in other words)?? I have friends in the St. Louis area who would love the tix if you're not going to use them. Heck, I may fly up there myself! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/pfft.gif" alt="" /> Rocked

Re: Old Newbie's post. Where are you Rocked #1363627 05/24/05 03:26 PM
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truetoself Member T Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 630	Rocked.... Yes, that is part of it. There is definitely that aspect. I know...crazy huh? But the other thing is that I feel that we are unbalanced because he became this weird immoral liar for a couple of months...and I feel like there is a moral imbalnce now as well. I know that is even CRAZIER...but it is how I feel. I am sure I will use the tickets...just a matter of logistics. Sorry! True

Re: Old Newbie's post. Where are you truetoself #1363628 05/24/05 03:41 PM
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Rocked Member R Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 484	If you look at sin in "degrees", then yes. Burn dinner=1pt. Lying=2pts. Immoral thoughts=3pts. Affair=10pts. Major unbalance. However in God's eyes it looks more like this: Burn dinner=10pts. Lying=10pts. Immoral thoughts=10pts. Affair=10pts. Anything less than perfection is sin and is evil in his sight. Granted there are varying degrees of "consequences" for different sins. Now, for those who claim to be Christ-followers it looks like this: Burn dinner=0pts. Lying=0pts. Immoral thoughts=0pts. Affair=0pts. Because Jesus has forgiven us of all our immorality, from burnt toast to affairs. Don't get me wrong, this truth doesn't minimize our hurt feelings or emotional struggles relationally...or dismiss our responsibility to live right, it just gives us a clear pic of God's take on balance. Make sense? Rocked

Re: Old Newbie's post. Where are you Rocked #1363629 05/24/05 03:47 PM
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truetoself Member T Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 630	yes , it does. I know all this. Just telling you how he and I both perceive our relationship now Thanks for the perspective, though. True

Re: Old Newbie's post. Where are you truetoself #1363630 05/24/05 03:54 PM
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Rocked Member R Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 484	O.K. I'm chillin' I've felt that same way for a long time too. Still do at times. Hang in there. Go Cards! (And plz don't tell me you're a Chicago Bears fan!) Rocked

Re: Old Newbie's post. Where are you Rocked #1363631 05/24/05 04:00 PM
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truetoself Member T Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 630	no..not a Bears fan(hate football actually)but I played at a half time game in college when I was part of the marching band!!! You don't have to chill. I know you mean well. Thanks again. True

Re: Old Newbie's post. Where are you truetoself #1363632 05/24/05 04:01 PM
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Rocked Member R Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 484	Let me guess...you played in the brass section? I marched pregame at the opening game of a Philadelphia Phillies baseball game many moons ago. Rocked

Re: Old Newbie's post. Where are you Rocked #1363633 05/24/05 04:04 PM
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truetoself Member T Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 630	I did play a brass instrument...but I was a flag twirler in the marching band! You probably played some silly woodwind instrument...Brass section rules!

Re: Old Newbie's post. Where are you truetoself #1363634 05/24/05 04:06 PM
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Rocked Member R Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 484	Wrong! I was a tuba player. Flag twirler? Could be cause for some of your recent imbalance! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" /> Rocked

Re: Old Newbie's post. Where are you Rocked #1363635 05/24/05 04:09 PM
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truetoself Member T Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 630	HA HA....tuba...huh? Hmmm...I would have never pictured that! Gotta go celebrate now......Have a good night! True

Re: Old Newbie's post. Where are you truetoself #1363636 05/24/05 04:11 PM
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Rocked Member R Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 484	I'm a big guy...tuba was my thang! Go celebrate now, Flag ! Rocked

Re: Old Newbie's post. Where are you Rocked #1363637 05/24/05 04:12 PM
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Rocked Member R Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 484	Flag is what I meant. Rocked

Re: Old Newbie's post. Where are you Rocked #1363638 05/24/05 04:13 PM
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Rocked Member R Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 484	Stupid filter... f l a g g i r l is what I tried to type. Cya tommorrow Rocked

Re: Old Newbie's post. Where are you Rocked #1363639 05/24/05 05:25 PM
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OP Godhelpme2 Member G Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 713	Football is the only REAL sport! 2

Re: Old Newbie's post. Where are you Godhelpme2 #1363640 05/24/05 10:41 PM
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holiday Member H Joined: Dec 2004 Posts: 556	Quote Football is the only REAL sport! Ditto! And oops, I'm a BEARS fan! M 013082 BS me 47 FWH 44 DD 112904 NC 113004 S 22 D 15 Tell the truth. There will be less things to remember.

Re: Old Newbie's post. Where are you holiday #1363641 05/24/05 11:37 PM
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OP Godhelpme2 Member G Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 713	I'm a college football fan. Go BRUINS....UCLA that is!

Re: Old Newbie's post. Where are you Godhelpme2 #1363642 05/25/05 12:20 AM
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OP Godhelpme2 Member G Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 713	Hey Guys. I'm just sitting here doing my journaling for my scrapbooks on the computer because I hate my handwriting. I am having to go back and look at dates from several years back (I hate journaling) to get it right for the scrapbook. As I write down the dates and the memories of the event, it is making me very sad. I've had no problem creating the pages from pictures taken during his A, but having to write about how happy and normal everything seemed, is turning out to be really hard for me. Just needed someone to share that with. I'm home by myself and it is late and I am feeling sad. 2

Re: Old Newbie's post. Where are you Godhelpme2 #1363643 05/25/05 09:09 AM
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truetoself Member T Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 630	2, I am so sorry you were hurting last night. That is a painful thing. I felt the same way when I wrote in my kids' journal back in February. But you will get through it. It is tough, especially when you are by yourself. We are here if you are still feeling down. True

Re: Old Newbie's post. Where are you holiday #1363644 05/25/05 09:23 AM
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Rocked Member R Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 484	Holiday, I'll be in prayer for you, that God heals you from your Bear disease. This could take prayer and fasting tho. Go Jags! Rocked

Re: Old Newbie's post. Where are you Rocked #1363645 05/25/05 09:25 AM
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Rocked Member R Joined: Jan 2005 Posts: 484	Oops. I didn't see 2's post before I typed my silliness. Didn't mean to ignore your feelings 2. Hang in there. You'll make it. We're praying for you. True, So how was the celebration? Rocked

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