You guys are hilarious...and Rocked you thought about leaving us? What's the matter with you?

First off, I thought your joke was funny as heck. I actually laughed out loud...maybe too close to home for me? Funny! And the Springer show is the other way around...the cheerleaders do the butt kicking!

True, I'm glad you are a fellow scrapbooker. I was journaling just now while the kids were napping and had to resist the temptation to say "daddy wasn't able to make this trip to Montecito with the family. He was pretending to be working while he was screwing another woman!" But I didn't. That is the truth though...that is why this project has been hard.

Thanks for the laughs! Good to know I've got friends here.

True, Father's Day. Good one. Last year I gave him portrait photos of the kids. You would think that would have made him realize the harm he was doing to them...looking at those adorable pictures. But anyway, what are you doing for Father's day for your h?

I was a cheerleader, on speech and debate, listened to 2 Live Crew (before I was saved) and Married with Children was my favorite show. Not to mention I was a black girl, dating a guy from Peru in all white Simi Valley. Add to that the fact that my h had an A with his employee...how do I stay normal?! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />

Less than an hour to go and I get to eat! Like I said, it wasn't too hard. I didn't even need you guys for support! Next time I won't even tell you.

Having salmon, roasted potatoes and veggies...yum!
Stacie

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Well, on Father's Day my H and I will still be on our anniversary date. Our anniversary is the day before father's day. I am going to have the kids make him something, though. That is what we usually do. Or they buy something they think he will like. One year my oldest and I made him a clock. He still has it in his office...and I am sure showed it off to the OW! Anyway, we don't do much for those types of days. I would like to, but on Mother's Day he has always said to me, why should I get you anything you aren't MY mom. SO, I guess I have started to let Father's Day be like that too.

Hope your dinner is yummy. It sounds good. We went out with my H's employees for dinner. Then we were going to do our own little thing but my H didn't feel good or something so we didn't...dang!

Oh Rocked and Holiday....I found this just for you <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

"Superbowl Shuffle"
Red Label Records, 1985 Music: B. Daniels, L. Barry
Lyrics: R. Meyer, M. Owens

Chorus
We are the Bears Shufflin' Crew
Shufflin' on down, doin' it for you.
We're so bad we know we're good.
Blowin' your mind like we knew we would.
You know we're just struttin' for fun
Struttin' our stuff for everyone.
We're not here to start not trouble.
We're just here to do the Super Bowl Shuffle.

Well, they call me Sweetness,
And I like to dance.
Runnin' the ball is like makin' romance.
We've had the goal since training camp
To give Chicago a Super Bowl Champ.
And we're not doin' this
Because we're greedy.
The Bears are doin' it to feed the needy.
We didn't come here to look for trouble,
We just came here to do
The Super Bowl Shuffle.

This is Speedy Willie, and I'm world class.
I like runnin' but i love to get the pass.
I practice all day and dance all night,
I got to get ready for the Sunday fight.
Now I'm as smooth as a chocolate swirl,
I dance a little funky, so watch me girl.
There's not one here that does it like me,
My Super Bowl Shuffle will set you free.

I'm Samurai Mike I stop'em cold.
Part of the defense, big and bold,
I've been jammin' for quite a while,
Doin' what's right and settin' the style,
Give me a chance, I'll rock you good,
Nobody messin' in my neighborhood.
I didn't come here lookin' for trouble,
I just came to do The Super Bowl Shuffle

(Repeat Chorus)

I'm the punky QB, known as McMahon.
When I hit the turf, I've got no plan.
I just throw my body all over the field.
I can't dance, but I can throw the pill.
I motivate the cats, I like to tease.
I play so cool, I aim to please.
That's why you all got here on the double
To catch me doin' the Super Bowl Shuffle.

I'm mama's boy Otis, one of a kind.
The ladies all love me
For my body and my mind.
I'm slick on the floor as I can be
But ain't no sucker gonna get past me.
Some guys are jealous
Of my style and class,
That's why some end up on their -,
I didn't come here lookin' for trouble,
I just get down to The Super Bowl Shuffle.

They say Jimbo is our man.
If Jimmy can't do it, I sure can.
This is Steve, and it's no wonder
I run like lightnin', pass like thunder.
So bring on Atlanta, bring on Dallas,
This is for Mike and Papa Bear Halas.
I'm not here to feather his ruffle,
I just came here to do
The Super Bowl Shuffle.

I'm L.A. Mike, and I play it cool.
They don't sneak by me 'cause I'm no fool.
I fly on the field and get on down.
Everybody knows I don't mess around.
I can break'em, shake'em,
Any time of day.
I like to steal it and make 'em pay,
So please don't cry to beat my hustle
'Cause I'm just here to do
The Super Bowl Shuffle.

(Repeat Chorus)

The sackman's comin', I'm your man Dent.
if the quarterback's slow,
He's gonna get bent.
We stop the run, we stop the pass,
I like to dump guys on their -.
We love to play for the world's best fans,
You better start makin'
Your Super Bowl plans.
But don't get ready or go to any trouble
Unless you practice
The Super Bowl Shuffle.

It's Gary here, and I'm Mr.Clean.
They call me "hit man,"
Don't know what they mean.
They throw it long and watch me run,
I'm on my man, one-on-one.
Buddy's guys cover it down to the bone,
That's why they call us the 46 zone.
Come on everybody let's scream and yell,
We're goin' to do the Shuffle,
Then ring your bell.

You're lookin' at the Fridge,
I'm the rookie.
I may be large, but I'm no dumb cookie.
You've seen me hit, you've seen me run,
When I kick and pass, we'll have more fun.
I can dance, you will see
The others, they all learn from me.
I don't come here lookin' for trouble,
I just came here to do
The Super Bowl Shuffle.

(Repeat Chorus)-

Let me worship the punky QB some more!Take me Back!


Hee Hee <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

True <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Cute, Missy!
I miss McMahon, he was a cutie.
Funny, my H used to say the same thing year after year..."You aren't my Mother" on Mother's Day. This year I drilled it in his head "Oh, but I am the "MOTHER" of your children", which counts for alot in my book (so he brought me flowers!).
2, how was dinner? Go easy on your stomach after such a long fast. This will also be a time when you find out food allergies if you have any. Symptoms could include fatigue, so write down what you eat for the next couple of days.
Well, just finished sewing two more totes. Off to la la land. Sweet dreams...
(Punky QB, don't you mean Hunky QB? ha!)

I'll just be waiting in the corner till you all get done with your "chick talk".

Ho-hum! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

Chick talk, cheep cheep...
Get out of the corner. This is Thursday, the sun is out and it's warming up here in ol Henderson.
So Rocked, how have you been feeling lately. You've been posting more funnies which lets me feel you are being more positive.

Chick talk? I gave you a superbowl classic song! Isn't that male talk? Hee hee!

Well, I am sitting here with my back killing me...so I will be on my couch most of the day checking in with you guys. I do not know what I did...but it hurts so bad I can hardly breathe! Ugh!

Yes, Rocked, share your feelings. That isn't chick for you, huh?

Oh oh Oh, I forgot to tell you all something that I thought was a big step for me. I had my H watch me as I deleted forever the letter that he wrote the OW about how much he loved and respected me and could never have an affair with her(HA...we all know he failed that test). I don't know why I kept it, except to torture myself, but I decided that I did not need it anymore. I still think about the letter he wrote her the day after the first sex, but I erased that immediately and I am glad that I cannot see those feelings on the screen anymore.

Anyway, I thought it was a major step for me. I think he did too. I am really trying to stop bringing it up, except at counseling. I did ask some questions yesterday, but it was more about a certain incident that he actually told me about during that time....so, I figured it was ok.

Well, I hope that is less chick talk for you Rocked.

True <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Hey Holiday,
Thanks for asking. Ever since my counsleing session on Monday I have been doing really well. Some things he said helped me get a better perspective on things and motivate me to move forward. Hear's what I walked away with in a nutshell: (1)Come to grips with my own sinfulness, (2)Forgive my wife (as Christ forgives me), (3)Stop going back to the past and begin to "create a new history" together, (3)Prioritize marriage and family over everything else but God (yes, even my job! And as a Chippendale dancer that could be difficult)(4)Have lots of (with my W of course!).

My W had her first session with the MC yesterday and had good things to say about him and his words too. (She even got the same "Have lots of " advice. Psst...and it's working!)

There is such a fresh wind of renewal, joy, humility and kindness blowing through my marriage. I thank God and give Him the credit. I realize we're not out of the woods yet but we're heading in the right direction and at a quicker pace than before.

I want this same kind of experience for the 3 of you ladies and your H's. I know we're all different and our A recoveries are different but it saddens me to read of someone's "backward dwelling" b/c I know that's what threw me into a backslide and depression. Am I hurt and mad at what my W did? Of course! But by God's grace I will no longer stare backward and dwell on what SHE did. To do so would be choosing to remain stuck. I have sinned a zillion times in a zillion ways so I am no more prefect than my W. In fact, by the Bible's definition, as a man who is tempted visually, I have committed ery many more times than my W. % ery in my head and heart equating to PA).

I'm sure this blog is going to stir up the pot today, but it is "my conviction" and it happens to be working. Because I care for you 3 I only wish you can get to the point where you move past dwelling on the past and focus on creating a new future.

True, WAY TO GO! Awesome. Those are giant steps forward. I am so proud of you. God is working so keep following His lead. He can and will give you the strength to contunally make the right steps.

Does your hurt back mean you won't be twirling your flag today? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

FYI...the word a d u l t e r y...and the word... seks...keep getting filtered out of my post. Just in case you wondered what the blanks were.

Make sense?

No, Rocked, no flag twirling today.

I do not know why you think your post will stir up trouble. I agree that we should not do the backwards dwelling...Just tell that to the dwelling part of my brain. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/grin.gif" alt="" />

I am so glad that counseling went so well for you. I know all about the have lots of.... I think I have told you all how often we do that nowadays. It does help...except when the reality moments hit...then it hurts...but we usually get through that.

Well, talk to you in a bit.

True <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

OK, True, press the "backward dwelling part of your brain" up against your pc monitor for a sec. Got it in place? Here goes...QUIT STINKIN DWELLING ON THE CRAP OF THE PAST!!!

All done.

And lay off that 80's d e a t h music from your high school daze!

Am I reading it incorrectly or is our thread leading all other threads in the "Just Found Out" category in views and replies?

Geez, are we gabby? Maybe it's a sign that we like each other.

I've started working out at the gym again in prep for our Vegas Pool Party. (No scrapbooks, twirling flags, pom poms, UCLA memorabilia, tubas, or ebay P&L spreadsheets allowed!) <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/cool.gif" alt="" />

Oops. Looking at today's posts I've kinda been d o minating the scenery. I'm going back to my corner now. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

HA HA HA, Rocked! You are sooooo funny.
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True <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

Thank you very much. Elvis has left the building!

Rocked...your MC hit the nail on the head. I think that is what I was trying to say when asked about this being my H's "second" time. I choose hope and moved forward with faith.

My H and I had a wonderful talk the other night (again). I am really thinking he had an A because of the "variety factor" (sorry, this is what might "stir it up"). I haven't had the "impulse" to go outside the marriage with an A, but I do have alot of male friends to talk to. My H doesn't have the "female" friends to do the same. Isn't it strange how a woman can have a male friend, but it's rough for a man to have a woman friend (did I make sense??).

2, this is what your good male friend does for you (he is filling a missing need) and also your IG (internet guy).

Men, not all, but most, (excluding Rocked, of course) I feel, don't understand the boundaries associated with the relationship. One good male friend of mine told me years ago, "you can't be friends with a woman unless you are attracted to her"...woman on the other hand, I don't think, think the same way. Not to say some woman at times are lead by their own testosterone (splg?).

On a lighter note, I am so happy to hear all of us being more positive!!!

2, how was dinner? We haven't anything from you since dinner time?

Happy Thursday!!!

Yep...variety...My H says that is definitely part of why he did it(in fact all of why it started)...Good call! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smirk.gif" alt="" />

His OW cannot be just friends with men..obviously:) I think she was much more like a man...maybe it was b/c she was bisexual and her mom was a lesbian...who knows.

Happy Thurday to you as well!

True <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/wink.gif" alt="" />

My W would say I'm into variety...Sunday, Monday, Tuesday, Wednesday, Thursday, Friday, Saturday, Morning, Noon, Night, Indoors, Outdoors, etc.

All with her, of course! <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/eek.gif" alt="" />

I find this message board a little difficult to use. I can never figure out what the last post was. Anyway, I hope this was it.

Rocked, I'm glad you didn't mention politics at the pool party...I will bring my Go Christian Democrat button! I like your variety as well. I'm game for anything except the back seat of SUV's because that is usually where they screwed. Maybe in due time I'll get over that too.

I'm so pleased that you are pleased with your counselor. I do want to let you know that it is possible that as things get shared in a "safe" evironment, you will have to revisit the past...we did. So be ready for bad days and know we are here for you.

My meal was fine. I actually had leftovers because I was too lazy to fix the salmon. So I will try again tonight.

My H comes home and we have MC tomorrow to discuss the OW coming to his party and discussing what things he could have done differently and how I should handle things from now on. Will probably be very productive. Then swimming with the kids and 4 days of R & R with him. Looking forward to it.

Have a great day!
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