Oh my gosh NOW, I love that song. It is one of the few country songs that I really like.
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I have refrained from posting on these threads for the most part, because I don't like to argue and because debate bores me, but I must say I agree with both Mel and Ark.
If we can't have differing personalities, with different styles and different opinions... than what is the point?
If everyone must post in the same gentle, non abrasive style than WHAT IS THE POINT of being on a message board which emcompasses people of all different faiths, beliefs and lifes experiences? We might as well all stay in our bathrooms and talk to ourselves in the mirror.
I don't like name calling but if we can't call a spade a spade than WHAT IS THE POINT?
If a WS comes here, active in an affair than why shouldn't we call it as we see it? Why shouldn't we label his/her behavior as "scummy", when that is what it is.
If they are active in an affair and they come to a board based on marriage building, and post on an infidelity forum... than HELLO, they must know they are going to get hit by at least someone in the throes of destruction by infidelity.
I came here as a former OW, looking to find some kind of understanding in what I had been through. I have rec'd the most honest, compassionate, wise feedback and it has meant more to me than anything else since my nightmare began.
I have learned so much about boundaries, about ethics and about how caring, and forgiving people are.
I can't even begin to verbalize what this board has meant to me in the past year. It wasn't really kindness I was looking for, it was honesty and the true desire to get feedback which cut through the [email]bullsh@t[/email] which we all live in our "real" lives.
When I post a thread, which I did not too long ago regarding my sitch with my DD's dad I got some pretty "in your face blunt" replies.
They all served me well, as even the blunt ones which differed from my own feelings caused me to take another look at my own interpretation of the sitch and of my reaction to it.
I am eternally grateful for the differences of opinion and communication style of this board.
And personally I wouldn't have it any other way.
I believe we have the best and the brightest here. All of us, including JM, Dewt, Mel, Pep, Susan, Arch, NOW, LB, BA, Bob, CN, 2long, WAT, ARK, Racer, TA, BT, Low (everyone brave enough to venture in these kind of threads, and everyone else too) and so many others. All different in their styles and beliefs.
But the unifying belief, as ARK said is that we all believe in the sanctity and importance of marriage and family.
Lets embrace and be thankful for each other, in all of our differences.
