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I friggin HATE this!! WH works with OW....who used to be our nanny and is only 19!!!
He was supposed to be at home (mine now...he's been out a few months) watching our sons because his mom had a medical procedure today & she wasn't able to watch them.
Anyway, he's logged into his work computer now. He said he had no choice (just made SR VP a few days ago), but he'll only be there a short time. I just know my sons are sitting with OW so he can work. It's gonna be freaking weeks before they stop talking about her again!!!!
The tears are flowing
A man travels the world over in search of what he needs, and returns home to find it.
FWH (him) 40
FBS (me) 38
together 12 years, married 8
5 kids (his, mine & ours) oldest 16, youngest 6
EA/PA/EA 11/2004-12/2005(all with same OW {19 & our nanny for 1 year prior}yuk)
DDay 11/2004
False Recovery 08/2005 - 09/2005
RECOVERY '06
NC not very firm at first, but now securely in place!
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Have you exposed to OW's boyfriend yet?
WAT
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Are you at work? Did you ask your husband who was watching the kids? Does he know that it is not acceptable for the kids to be around OW in any shape, form, or fashion?
Can you tell your boss you have an emergency and go get your kids?
"Your actions are so loud that I can't hear a word you're saying!"
BW M 44 yrs to still-foggy but now-faithful WH. What/how I post=my biz. Report any perceived violations to the Mods.
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Exposure has been done everywhere....my family, WH's family, OW's boyfriend/fiancee, OW's father, and their company is also aware (OW had to sign docs for HR that it was a consentual "relationship" so she couldn't sue for harassment).
WH doesn't budge on his opinion that our sons love the former nanny, and sees no harm in her seeing them. I've checked our state laws, there is nothing I can do to prevent her from seeing them.
This sucks
A man travels the world over in search of what he needs, and returns home to find it.
FWH (him) 40
FBS (me) 38
together 12 years, married 8
5 kids (his, mine & ours) oldest 16, youngest 6
EA/PA/EA 11/2004-12/2005(all with same OW {19 & our nanny for 1 year prior}yuk)
DDay 11/2004
False Recovery 08/2005 - 09/2005
RECOVERY '06
NC not very firm at first, but now securely in place!
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I don't have much time to help you with this. Take your mother-in-law with you. Get your kids if they are with her. They are your kids you can get them if you want to. There is no law against that. You don't have a separation agreement or anything!!
I made it happen..a joyful life..filled with peace, contentment, happiness and fabulocity.
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