WH,

I want to apologize for my part in helping to make the environment seem right for your affair with OW. I know I’ve said this before, however I think it’s important to say it again. We know now that we became complacent and we took our relationship for granted. I foolishly thought that my vote was worth more since I made more money and in doing so I completely disregarded you and your needs. That was completely unfair to both of us.

I have been making improvements in myself. They are lasting changes giving me the ability to meet what I have learned are the “emotional needs” each of us have and needs to give and receive from our family. I have learned that shallow interactions with strangers cannot replace the long lasting love that comes from being a valuable member of our little family.

In order to be a valuable member, all communication with OW and the women you chat with from online must end. Until that happens I cannot see you or talk to you.

Please respect my decision to not see you right now. I have endured a lot of pain because of your relationships with OW and these online women you chat with and I just cannot be with you, knowing that you are still in touch with them. Should you decide that you want to make our marriage a priority and you are making the changes that will be needed to do so, I will be here. I do love you WH, but I cannot continue like this.

I love you very much. I’ve never felt as special, protected and satisfied as I am with you. It tears me in two to not see you and share each day with you. That’s the frustrating part of this. Because with the help of marriage counseling and without the interference of other people, the dream we initially based our marriage upon is still alive…as long as our love can last. I long to be in your arms and feel whole again. But, until you are ready to meet me halfway, I just can’t see you anymore. There was a time when we had happiness, love and trust between us, WH. We can have that again. Use the love that is still in your heart to complete our family again. We need your help to accomplish this, however we cannot wait forever.

With all my heart,
BS

I think you forgot to add how you will communicate with him -do you have someone else he can talk to to relay messages or thru the computer.

Oops...forgot that line! Add: If you need to communicate about any matter it will need to be through a person of your choosing.

MIL told me this morning that she has decided to not be the go-between. She feels that if I go this route I should just go ahead and file for the D. Since WH has effectively cut off all contact b/w me and what used to be our mutual friends (now his) there really isn't anyone I can ask except my parents who he wouldn't call if his life depended on it right now.

Ok I think it is good.

<img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />A valuable member??? <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/confused.gif" alt="" />

yeah..of the family. But really, no use debating it now..he's already got the letter.