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My husband is willing to write a NC letter to the OW. I mentioned us writing one to her family as well, which he was quite irritated about at first. Not wanting to get them involved.
Several days later (today) he asked if I still wanted to send a letter to her parents. I said, sure if he thought it was a good idea. He said he would try to get their address...
If we do send this, should he write it or do I? (seems like he should, since he had the affair and I'm sure she'd deny it if they confront her and it's from me)...
Does anyone have any sample letters? I imagine it can be rather short and sweet (or not so sweet maybe, but we plan on being civil.)
Any help, thoughts, advice would be appreciated. Thanks!!!
me: FWW/2 EA - 28
BH/WWH/PA - 28
M - 5 yrs, 0 kids
me: Online EA during 2nd & 3rd yr
TransAtlantic Seperation - 8/22/04
Returned home - 12/10/04
Lived 1 hour apart til 06/05
HDD - 1/05, 06/05, 09/05, 11/05, 01/21/06 - finally honest.
Currently seperated, somewhere between Plan A and Plan B...
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Why would you write a NC letter to her parents? Is he involved with them?
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I wrote a letter to the OM's parents and sent it off earlier this week. Waiting for that to hit the fan.
Anyway, MY motivation behind it was to expose him in the A. Until now, he's been completely isolated of any consequences concerning the A. He's been held accountable to nobody.
While my family has suffered the exhaustion and pain of what this has done, he's sitting pretty in another state living out his life with no problems.
I know for a fact that if I were to have an affair with a married woman and mother of two young kids, my parents would have a Come-To_Jesus discussion with me REAL quick. Then, after I woke up in the hospital, they'd finish talking.
Had I known any other people to send it to that would have caused a similar impact, I would have. As it is, all I had was his parents address.
FN
Divorced April 26 2007...
REMARRIED to a wonderful woman October 13, 2012!
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I considered doing this, as well, as the female soldier my H had his A with is not married (well, she is married but it was a "planned" marriage to bring an asian man to the country for money, so it's not a real marriage), but I don't know her parent's or their address and as I undersatnd it her Aunt took care of her children while she aws overseas, so I don't even know if she HAS parents alive. I don't have any other advice, except if you are looking to expose the affair, short & sweet is the way to go.
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