MJK, I’m sorry for the things your going thru.
Let me first speak to the other members here:
You guys need to see the desperation in her words, she sounds to me like she is really scared of this man, he has threatened her before and he sounds like an abusive husband, he threatens with divorce all the time and has angry outbursts.
I’m personally scared for her, I have lived those situations before. Lets give her some choices first, and let her decide what to do according to how much she knows her husband. I don’t want to scare her, but I don’t want to read about it in the newspaper either!!
Mjk:
How long have you known your husband?
You say you have been married for five yrs, has he always been that way? Has he hit you before?
What other words does he uses to threatened you?
Has he ever threatened to take away your baby?
Is he abusive to your child?
Has he forced himself on you? (sexually)
Is he speaking to his brother?
Did they get into a physical fight?
This are only a few questions.
Answer this questions to your self and if the answers are mostly yes then we need to talk further.
If I’m way out of line here, GOOD!!! Then we can talk about how to approach your H with this latest EA.
I (Imo) I don’t think you should tell him anything just yet. He will be over there brewing his anger towards you.( I know some of you here will disagree with me) but bear with me, we need to think of this lady’s safety first, no marriage is worth losing your life over.
I don’t mean to scare you, you know your H more then we do.
That’s why I asked those questions. As hard as they may be.
Lets assume that your H is not going to keep his threats, you need to confide in one of your family members or a trusted friend (NOT the OM) and maybe they can be with you when you tell your H. Weather you tell him over the phone or in person.
Do you think it would be detrimental to his safety if you tell him over the phone while he’s overseas? I’m assuming he’s in the military.
For now you do need to cut all contact with the OM it will only complicate things more. What your feeling now is just a fantasy, your trying to fill the void that your H has left you with. Don’t fall for it. If things don’t work out with your H and the OM is still there, then you can pursue things, but not now.
I believe HONESTY is the best policy, BUT which one of US would not LIE to protect our CHILDREN or OURSELVES from harm?
As I said before this is my opinion and we need to find out more about this situation before we jump in the wagon and cause irreparable damage to this family.
YES, what she did was wrong and she paid dearly for it, now she did it again, well you know, let’s throw the first stone who has not sinned before?
Give her a break, she knows she’s done wrong that’s why she’s here!!
It took a real woman to admit her mistakes. <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/frown.gif" alt="" />
I know she’s still thinking about him, but we all know how powerful fantasies are! And that’s why she’s here. Let’s help her out you guys.:(
Have mercy on me with your replies, Thank you.
MJK YOU and your children will be in my prayers from now on.
YOU have a friend in me!! GOD BLESS YOU AND KEEP YOU!!
