I've been separated for many months now, and I was wearing my wedding ring until I lost it when I was hospitalized. I wear another ring on my ring finger.

Does anyone else still wear their wedding ring? Even if they are in a plan B or going through a D?

I'm in Plan B and still wear mine because I am still M. Will wear it until a D.

I wore it until the divorce was final and even for a while after that.

It was very hard for me to stop wearing it. I tried several times but put it back on for a while...

I am in the process of moving my bedroom for one area of the house to another right now. I tried to find my wedding ring just yesterday but couldn't locate it... somewhere in my bedroom stuff...

Interesting this came up. I haven't worn my rings for a while...I was always mad at H or trying to forgive/forget the latest episode & just didn't feel like wearing them. He's been out of the house 2 full weeks now & today was the first day I really missed them. I really like my rings & I had a dream about them. Anyway, I decided I'll probably wear them tomorrow...cuz I wanna.

I had promised myself a "mothers" ring if/when WH took his wedding ring off (which he recently has). I figured I'd wear my kids birth stones there instead. Haven't gotten around to ordering one yet. I keep telling myself I will remain married in my heart. But I guess that could change.

I used to wear them. But I've lost so much weight that they don't fit anymore. They just fall off. But they are in the original ringbox on my bedside table.

What Chai said.

If that's where we end up.

Then I will take it off and pass it to my Doberman as a matter of symbolism. He will pocket it and give it back to me after we leave the courtroom.

I hope it doesn't come to that but if it does I'll need the symbolism. Helps to cement things.

A mother's ring...never thought of that. That's a good idea..

It's funny, I would take mine off when I got mad at him.

I did this in stages. The first night he told me he was't coming home, I took it off. Next day put it on...and wore it for a long time.

The in October I put on my gold band and put the circle diamond ring on my right hand.

Then I put his ring on a necklace with Moses holding the ten commandments between the ring.

I too have lost so much weight it just flies off, but how I got around it was to flip the diamond circle band and the diamond ring. And I have my gold band on my right hand.

I won't take them off until G-d tells me to and like everything else, I have NO DOUBT it will happen when it's supposed to happen.

As Steve told me when we talked. Legal separation is just another state of marriage. I am not GIVING my H one reason to not come home. I am married and I am proud to be his wife.

Regardless of what the world says.

Nope. Mine was enclosed with the PBL.

I wear mine. I just what to take it off and not put it on until we are back together, but for some strange reason I still wear it. My WW throw hers at me and then I found them in her jewellery box. However, she wears a diamond bracelet OM got her and tries to make out its old. That hurts!

Interesting question. As part of my Plan A, my wife selected a wedding ring for me to wear as her Christmas gift to me about three weeks ago.

FWW said it always hurt her that I didn't wear mine for about the last 29 years. My excuse was I almost always worked around dangerous machinery and safety rules would not allow it but the real reason is that I have never worn jewelry of any sort except a watch. I never knew it meant so much to her until after D-Day. I intend to wear it from now on as long as we are married.

Although I had thought about taking my wedding band off, I am still currently wearing mine.

If WW carries through with the D I have thought about having it cut, to symbolize her breaking of our covenant, and then mailing it to her.

Haven't totally decided on that but am giving it heavy consideration.

I plan on wearing mine as long as I'm still married.

For the longest time, I wore mine on a chain around my neck...I'm not sure at what point I stopped doing that...it's not in my bathroom...on a shelf...I see it from time to time...but I'm in a better place than I was...

I can't seem to get rid of it, that may take a long time...if ever...

haivng seen this thread it made me think that about two weeks after we were Med, I was pregnant and was going to wash some clothes at the laundomate...well, I hit it on the car door and cracked it...it's been to the jewerly store for repair several times and I have asked that it be fixed but it's come back every time with the crack still in it...

I have always wondered if that was a sign...

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That ring thing - let me tell you. I read a post from Ktulu about rings on one of the very worst days.It reminded me that I had taken off my ring on D-day.

I had to go do some TV for a business thing in London and my FWW found out I sent proof of PA to OM GF on the same day. She was absolutely ACID, hateful, vicious, telling me by phone she was packing and moving out and leaving the country with the kids and OM and all kinds of stuff. I had to keep calm and put my business head on for bloomberg ...

I got home she was EVIL. I checked my mail & this board and read Ktulu's post about the significance of her wedding band. I went straight to our bedroom and put on my wedding ring.

Squid noticed it the very next day in the middle of her worst and most terrible spite towards me and the kids.
" What the h3ll u wearing that for ? Our Marriage is down the pan !"

I replied calmly : "I don't need your permission to wear it. I promised God and you I'd wear it for better or worse. Well, this is 'worse' but my promise to God and you still stands. I want to be married to you. I want to do all I can to stay happily married to you, despite my hurt. Until the LAST MINUTE that there is hope that we can rescue our M I will wear the ring you gave me before God."

She ran upstairs and cried loudly for a long time. I took the kids bowling...

That was the peak of the hatred and fog. She mentioned since that it was very touching for her to see me wearing her ring when she felt so undeserving of it. And it also accused her.

I won't take it off again till I'm dead or divorced.

Now in recovery, Squid had tried to put on her wedding band. (a sports injury meant it hadn't fitted her for a year or more).

The story of what I did is HERE .

Do as you see fit with your wedding bands. You can see that ours were very significant indeed. All blessings

I took mine and pounded it with a hammer on an anvil.

There's no way in he|| that it will ever fit back on my hand to remind just how bad marriage is.

Pariah - lol, THANK you for that laugh. <not at you, just what you did>

I have my own story of the rings.

When I was pg with our son, I worked PT at a craft store on Sat mornings teaching kids 3-6 some artsy stuff.

Well, I was so upset one Fri afternoon when we got in a fight that I wrote him a long heartful letter and put it on his side of the bed. Begging him, letting him know my love, asking what I could do, etc. Later that evening I went to my girlfriends for dinner and called the house several times....he never answered, strange...so finally left him a msg saying I was going to spend the night with her and her family.

I woke up to go to work and decided to call in sick instead...I went home only to find his wedding band on top of the letter I gave him, and the bed unmade. He never came home, and that was the first night I caught him at her condo.

The OW told me that he said wearing the ring reminds me of the mistake I made marrying my wife. It was awful. There is a special place FAR DOWN BELOW for people like her.

So, ****** no I don't wear them anymore.

LOL, Pariah...I can just picture you in an old darkened garage with a dirt floor... (like one that is separate from a house like they used to be more often back when)...there's a lightbulb hanging by its wire from the ceiling casting you in a backlight...I see you in front of a workbench with the hammer poised over your head and then slamming it down on the anvil repeatedly...

This is weird because I was just thinking about this very question earlier today. My WW took her rings off the day we officially separated about two months ago. She said that she felt that she was not married anymore and did not deserve to wear. I took my ring off for a couple of days but it did not feel right to me and I ended up putting back on. Funny thing is that she gave me this new ring about six months ago (complete with a blessing by our priest) to represent our "new" beginning.