For the last 3 week my wife is calling,her calling her,and going to bar after work. He can't drive, lost license, and picks him up, they drink dance whatever. I have confronted them 3 times at the bar, deny deny deny. I have not threatened divorce becasue of our 8 kids. I try to get her to go out woth me and just blows me off, does not want me anymore, except for support money kids, normal stuff. I don't lnow what ot do , we have been to counseling...just seemed to be snickering inside.. said she doesn't respect me, was going to go out with me at one point, then changed her mind and said she wasn't ready. I can't really go out with kids here until after 11PM when kids are out, even then I don't feel right. She started basck to work after 15 years at home, met ladies at work who like to party. She stayed after they left on night and danced with this guy, I fouind out...but again the lies I found out later were unreal. They have got a hold On each other.
Any thoughts...

You are in denial. WW is having an affair. Post for help in just found out or general.