t/j Hi Mary! Long time no see.

Medc, please you made your point. Let hurtmom have her thread and get the support she needs. Finding out your H got another woman pregnant is excruciating.

How bout we get back to marriage building?

T/J too Hey FF

Hurt. Don't leave. Seriously don't. I do like MedC and he has stood up for me on here but you two need to just not talk to each other.

You can get a lot of support here and I know you need it right now. Your just fresh from finding this out. sleep on it okay?

Amen to that! MEDC is a really good guy and one of my favorite posters. He can just be a bit umm enthusiastic when it comes to children and fathers.

(((hurtmom)))

I have NO problem with HM and the OC issue. I may disagree with her...but this was NOT about that.

But the OW/OC problem IS her problem.

That is why she is here, not anything else. She doesn't need to agree, disagree or discuss something she is not concerned about, at this time. Her pain IS about OC.

Don't worry about it anyway. She is gone.

crap!

Hurtmom if your lurking........speak up......it's okay. You've got people here who are concerned about ya.

Marysway, Thanks.........but no thanks. What me and MedC were arguing about had NOTHINHG to do with me deciding on whether to have C with OC.

He was saying things about my moral values and character because I had/have a friend who had an affair resulting in her OC.

Well My Goodness! Nobody's perfect. Medc saying he has no problem with me is not true, in my opinion. If you read the posts. you will be able to see that.

As long as he is on this board waiting to "pounce" on me, I won't be posting anymore.

Thank you for the invitation to come back, but I'm going to have to pass on it.

Hurt

so that I am real clear here.

I would judge someone for having a friend in an active affair. That shows a lack of morals in my opinion. It would also show a lack of morals to have a friend that is doing this and not telling their BS.

I do not judge anyone for having a friend that has repented and changed their ways.

Your words about her "dating" were offensive. Affairs are not dating any more than going to a hooker is a marriage. I also stand by what I said about TOW site. It is better to not engage in that filth.

People here can help you. I found parts of your posts offensive...and called you on it. Your decision to leave is yours and yours alone. No one here has the power to push you away. I suggest you stay and work with some of the posters here. You and I can stop making assumptions about one another's posts and make sure each of are clear before getting huffy. I will make sure that I handle my end of that.

I am perfectly willing to start over with a clean slate HM.

HM -

If MEDC bothers you so, why don't you put him on ignore?

Why punish YOURSELF and deny yourself the potential for help from others?

Are you looking for a reason to quit?

MEDC,

Can you copy/paste your questions and post them in another topic?

The past posts from many have veered wildly OT from Pep's original post...and I was diggin' on it big-time.

Regards,
Kimmy

you'bet'cha it does

Quitcher bellyachin' and post some more wisdom.

I was lovin' it more'n I like fried okra...

I could be mistaken, but I understood her to mean she wants you off her slate entirely.

Pep

Gee Pep, thanks for translating that. I will be sure to come to you when I need help understanding a post.

any poster is able to put another on "ignore" Pep...if she wants me off her slate, MB's has given a poster the ability to do just that.

How do you put someone on ignore?

click on the name (left side of that person's post}

click on "view profile"

then click on "ignore this user"

Pep

can other people see their posts? or does what they post not show up at all? does the person know they are ge0.tting ignored?

can other people see their posts?

Yes

does the person know they are getting ignored?

nope - not unless you tell 'em

if another poster quotes the person you are ignoring - you can see that quote ... just avert your eyes

I don't have anyone on ignore currently
I used to put folks on ignore to protect THEM from ME --- to stop myself from doing this ~~~> :crosseyedcrazy: :twobyfour: to them coz they were just too annoying ... but then, after awhile I'd calm down and get a grip

BUT - I am NOT currently in crisis and YOU are
so it is understandable if you are more than tender and sensitive

take care of your immune system

Pep