My husband and I have recently run into some issues where he is putting his friends as a priority over me and our son. He has told me that he wants to spend more time away from the two of us and with his friends. In light of recent events, I am uncomfortable with him doing so. These issues have greatly damaged the trust that we have, and I don't feel as loved or wanted as I used to. So much so that I don't even feel like being with him or that he wants to be with me. He believes that because I don't want him spending "alone time" with his friends that I am being controlling and I don't trust him. I have told him that things need to be rebuilt. He expects that he can do one or two little things and everything is fine, but I've told him it will take more work and time to repair the damage that has been done.
He blows up at me for something simple like a question about one of his female friends and then blames my "tone of voice" for his response. Things have not quite gotten violent, but in the last week and a half, he has gotten in my face on numerous occasions, shoved me once, and told me to leave quite a few times. He threatens to have me arrested if I take "his" son with me, or to have me arrested for stealing "his car." "His" son is also mine and so is the car.
It doesn't really matter how I approach him- he reacts the same way. I can yell or talk- he will find something that "caused" his reaction; like my body language, tone of voice, etc. He's never acted this way before- just within the last couple of weeks.
I am really confused and I don't know what to do. It seems like nothing I say gets through to him or he just tells me he's not listening because I'm bitching at him.
Is my marriage doomed? What can I do? What can he do? How do he and I fix this?
Thanks in advance.