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What is your response to this? My birthday is conveniently 12/29 I know I am pretty much not having a birthday this year. That�s ok, I have had 32 of them. This is the baby's first, it must be a special time her and for her mother, and so it shall be.
Me 34
WW 30
Abandoned Feb 17th 08, D-Day Aprl 27th 08.
Returned home Jul 7th, OC born 12/30/08
The FOG is clear, and we are in recovery.
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The funniest, and most disturbing was when she tried to educate me on what men want. It seems I am weird for still wanting sex after marriage. Let's back up a minute here. Did your W really do this? Where on earth did she find anything to "educate" you with saying that men aren't supposed to want sex after they're married? Because I have never heard of such a thing.
Me: BS/FWW: 48
BS/WH: 50
DS: 30, 27, 25
DD: 28
OC: 10
BH and I are raising my OC together.
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Pre A/OC my wife was a super hottie, and she new it. (She even did some modeling)
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What is your response to this? My birthday is conveniently 12/29 I know I am pretty much not having a birthday this year. That�s ok, I have had 32 of them. This is the baby's first, it must be a special time her and for her mother, and so it shall be. Wrong, wrong, wrong. You still deserve a special day. My daughter's B-day is 3/22 and mine is 3/24. Our family celebrations often get lumped together, but my H always takes me out for a special B-day dinner, just the two of us, and I get to choose where we go.
Me: BS/FWW: 48
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DS: 30, 27, 25
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Pre A/OC my wife was a super hottie, and she new it. (She even did some modeling)
Talk about the ultimate in "affairing down."
Me: BS/FWW: 48
BS/WH: 50
DS: 30, 27, 25
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Wrong, wrong, wrong. You still deserve a special day.
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Let's back up a minute here. Did your W really do this? Yes Where on earth did she find anything to "educate" you with saying that men aren't supposed to want sex after they're married? The department of maid up facts and non existent statistics Men want conquest, after marriage there is no need for it so a mans focus/needs changes from sex (Because we already conquered our wives) to family and home. Because I have never heard of such a thing. She assured me it was common knowledge and that I could confirm it with any married man who was honest.
Me 34
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>he assured me it was common knowledge and that I could confirm it with any married man who was honest.
Respectfully, she's full of horsesh!t.
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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Oh. And it was all a deflection to make you forget that SHE is the one not wanting SF.
Pft.
I hate deflection.
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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OK Gack,
In your opinion ....
Foreplay for a tired Mom = what?
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Kimmy - did you miss my TJ in earlier post ? (this thread)
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(pep's been smoking the mistletoe)
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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No.
You DO know by now that I was born with a guilty conscience?
I never had to take the Kobayashi Maru test until now. What do you think of my solution?O'hana means family, and family means nobody gets left behind or forgotten. My Story Recovered!
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>he assured me it was common knowledge and that I could confirm it with any married man who was honest.
Respectfully, she's full of horsesh!t. I AGREE!!!
Me: BS/FWW: 48
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No.
You DO know by now that I was born with a guilty conscience? I call bullchit. I'm your web momma, do as I say 
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No.
You DO know by now that I was born with a guilty conscience? You really have to let that go. Pep is right. If I defined my worthiness as a human being by my choice of ex-boyfriends....  Sorry, I think I just threw up in my mouth a little.
Me: BS/FWW: 48
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Men want conquest, after marriage there is no need for it so a mans focus/needs changes from sex (Because we already conquered our wives) to family and home. Sad to say it but I think that is what some women think about themselves and project that onto their Hs. I will say that I do believe "something" changes in a woman when she becomes a mother that many men overlook. A new mother is now responsible for the nuturing of a child and that can affect her sexuality. You may notice something as subtle as the way she dresses as she adapts to her new role as mommy. A new awareness and level of protection comes into play and many men IMO feel neglected because of it. Just one more factor for you to work into the equation Gack? Are you dizzy yet? 
BW - me
exWH - serial cheater
2 awesome kids
Divorced 12/2011
Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
We gain strength, and courage, and confidence by each experience in which we really stop to look fear in the face... we must do that which we think we cannot.
--------Eleanor Roosevelt
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Gack,
I am so glad you brought this over here. I didn't want to continue jacking that thread over in SAA. I didn't realize OC is the first child for her and you. I would imagine that bumps your pain up a few notches. We have a few BW's that their H's OC is HIS first and the OW got what the BW should have gotten.
Writer,
I respectfully disagree with you about your line of thinking of why his FWW is avoiding SF. It feels like you are excusing her not filling her H's top EN.
Gack,
I think Pep is onto something that they upcoming year will be better. As a FWW I can tell you that the more time was put between me and my A, the easier it was to be fully engaged with my H. I never felt like I was "cheating" on xOM, it just took me a long time to go through withdrawl and fall in love with my H again. I think it takes more time for WW's to re-engage, perhaps because women don't compartmentalize as well as men.
Faith
me: FWW/BS 52 H: FWH/BS 49
DS 30
DD 21
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Was there ever any doubt?  Hunny butterbean Kimmy-san ...I'm not a stupid 60-year-old. (although I did smoke a lot of mistletoe in the 60's) ... and I do have PLENTY of "how dumb was I ?" data from my sordid past ... BUT KIMMY it's a waste of time to feel "shame" over distant past events. It's a bad habit, serves ZERO purpose, and I, the wise and powerful Pep (who has your HOME ADDRESS by-the-way) am telling you to STOP it today.
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(pep's been smoking the mistletoe) I want some. :gobble:
BW - me
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Many a good man has failed because he had a wishbone where his backbone should have been.
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