Hey, Mrs Q.

Where are you??

Let me jump on that bandwagon and say CONGRATS to you and your family for all the awesome milestones.

Sadly, I get so wrapped up with the drama on the Surviving forum that I forget there are people here on Recovery. I wish the Surviving forum would shrink and the dramas would end and we'd all be partying over here in Recovery.

In God's time... I know.

Keep up the great work, Queenie. You continue to be an inspiration to me.

Hi Queenie

Long time no hear. I am absolutely stunned that you are still in this M! Still no SF?????!!!!! Its way up there on your needs and still nothing. Sorry I have nothing left to say.......

ps congrats on your grand child

Queenie...congratulations on being a grandmaaaa!!! I hope you arent posting on here cuz your busy being a grandmaaa!!!!

I hope everything is going well.

A BABY!!!! You know I love 'em!

Congrats!

Hi all,

Thanks for keeping in touch. I apologize for not coming here more often, but I just find myself not feeling that I have anything useful to offer others and I am just addicted to bejeweled. I know Hope, I kicked your [censored] last week, but today is a new day. You go girl, and good luck.

Life has certainly changed for my daughter and she is struggling. I honestly wonder what people think sometimes but then I remember to not play G-d and stay out of it. She is struggling with his sleep patters. Papa and I have taken the baby each shabbat and yet when she has time to sleep, she is awake doing other stuff then wonders why she is tired. DUH

MFL, I just knew my actions would shock you. I honestly can't explain what keeps me going. However last night I hit a wall about life and addressed it when I got home. Without a doubt as time has gone on, we are so much closer than I ever dreamed, but then old patterns and habits are creeping back in. I have enough understanding to know this is NOT GOOD and I'm not willing to stand for it.

All my kids either spent Father's Day with us or the one who hated him the most called to wish him a happy day. I feel that my mission is complete. I have done my job as a mom in protecting my kids. Again, let me reiterate, I have my timeline of one more year and then I'm free to make choices that I might not want to make but have to.

We both keep trying and talking and I truly believe that as long as we both keep moving in a direction of becoming better marriage partners we are good to go. SO Vladi, you might be speechless but boy what I wouldn't give to see your face when life does really turn out AWESOME for me. LOL

I find myself in a period where I am working on the steps towards my food and it's a very detailed, deep inside kind of work where we are getting down to causes and conditions. It's put me in a place where I am just being, but pushing at the same time. I feel that this work needs to be done so that if my M doesn't make it, then I won't have those ugly insecurities of worthlessness etc holding me back like I did.

Overall, life is a blessing. My kids are growing up, happy, living their OWN lives. My military son is coming home soon and stationed in Bremerton which is cool. He might end up in San Diego, but that will be his cross to bear.

I've missed you all alot. I hope all is well.

Oh the BIGGEST difference, I'm not afraid to bring up stuff about ME that's not making ME happy. I was so scared of him just upping and leaving.

I don't have that fear, because I know that G-d is who I need to stay close to and trust him that he will get me through whatever he needs me to.

I have learned, it may not be what I want.... But it will be what I need and I'll be ok one day.

Queenie!! So good to hear from you. You are the judge for what is working for you. You have been through so much so I think we should all respect your judgment for how things are going to go in your life. You know the rules, you've worked the plans, and you know your limit. You are a strong, strong woman and I imagine a FABULOUS grandma! Aren't grandbabies the best???

YES !!!!!!

Yes PM grandbabies are just the best. I just wish my daughter would enjoy this time more. Oh well, her journey.

I love your YES's Pep.

LOL

(((((((((((((((((hugs))))))))))))))))))))) right back to you! Queenie! It looks like you are hanging in there pretty well and now a grandma. That is so wonderful. I can't wait to be one.

So are things going Ok? Last I heard, before I left, you were making some progress. I hope that is still true of course I could just go read the last bunch of pages on this thread and not bother you with the questions. You----> <----Me

Anyway, thanks so much for the hugs.

Congrats Bubbe! I'm still dealing with an 8 year old, so I'm hoping my grandma days are far away

It looks like you are doing well, on a personal level. I still don't quite get the withholding of SF I won't bother asking all the standard questions...I just want you to know I'm thinking of you...and so proud of what you have accomplished with your family, and your recovery.

ah hem....YOU know Miss Q, this is NOT true.......you have plenty to offer. Did you NOT do a Plan A?? or an AMAZING Plan B?????.......

You have PLENTY of insights and useful stuff to offer.....so I'm not having any of that....

In fact, Miss I-don't-think-I-have-anything-useful-to-offer, do you KNOW that there is a certain semi-newbie over in SAA who is in Plan B who is currently READING your thread from the BEGINNING right now as we speak, err, I mean write??? ( ...Hello Miss Scottie....). She is learning quite a bit from YOU and all the people who helped you along. Heck, she's ever copied and pasted bits from Mimi.......so no more of this negativety, okay love???......

I'm so glad about the update though. The baby sounds marvelous, and yeah, if only our DD would do what we want......

And I am sooooo very very PROUD of you....sticking up for YOU and speaking your EN's and truths.....ahhhh, you have grown so much....

Now just keep these updates coming with a bit more frequency okay....or at the very least check your email......

loves ya honey.....Not

Honestly, no I didn't. but thanks for saying that and so much more.

I love you tons, Not. You have really walked me through a lot and am my hero in so many ways. Check email? What cha mean DAHLING....

I really still miss Mimi so much. I hope she is happy and ok.

Hi SL, I have to go see if there is an update. Thanks SL for the support. Honestly, I still quite don't get it myself. And if it were me... I would NEVER.. but I HAVE TO TRUST G-D that he knows what's going on and will make it all turn to good. I've layed this at his feet and just hope that the answers or ACTIONS come soon. But isn't it G-ds timing and not MINE. UGH...

Dances, though there might be a SLIGHT difference in our ages, our walk in marriage is so very similar. I read your thread and it just tore at my heart because I understand those feelings. I don't want you to hurt anymore and it's hard because there isn't anything I can do to change this, but give you a hug and tell you how much I care about you and want to see your heart, soul and life at peace.

Mr. Mark, do I miss you. OH VEY What I miss most is your sermons and writings that you posted to me so often. They brought so much comfort to my spirit and right now that's something I need. Not because of my M, but personally.

Tackling this food deal to many seems very easy, but it's not. It's the causes and conditions that made my loss of 88 lbs from the infidelity and they gain it almost all back be so obvious. I didn't change my "personal reality", and so now the time has come for me to tackle that head on. So.... when you are bored, wanting to share... PLEASE.... do...

I gotta say.. being a bubbe is so much fun, but tiring when you take him overnight. NOW I know why women my age shouldn't have babies.

I totally feel your pain

Oh yeah, Lil, you certainly do babe...

Just dropping by to say HI Queenie,


EXAAAACTLY!

..or that....he will have an....AFFAIR!

Been there, done that!

You go girl.

Hi Luna,

Thank you so much for taking time to stop by. I surely miss you and so many others. I'm on vacation and have a quiet day pretty much to myself, so I'm trying to catch up on people.

Hi Queenie! Just saw you over on Lifer's thread and thought I'd pop by and catch up on your life. So much better now than before, isn't it? I'm happy that you seem to know it will keep getting better.

Especially now that you're speaking up. You go, girl! Nothing to fear but fear itself...

Enjoy your vacation day.