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Marriage Builders cafeteria plan? Radio show 2-14 #2706550 02/15/13 09:05 AM
Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas M MelodyLane OP Member
OP MelodyLane Member M Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas	Many of us who have been through the MB program know the program does not work piecemeal and Dr H addresses this on the radio show yesterday. He talks about how it has to all work in conjunction; that you can't take this piece and that piece and cobble it together. Very interesting piece. It's at the very end of the hour. "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101

Re: Marriage Builders cafeteria plan? Radio show 2-14 MelodyLane #2706554 02/15/13 09:35 AM
Joined: Apr 2003 Posts: 4,294 Wisconsin M MrAlias Member
MrAlias Member M Joined: Apr 2003 Posts: 4,294 Wisconsin	I heard that clip Mel. To add to your comment I say it safe to say anyone who said that MB didn't work for them (save for people with addictions, mental illness, etc) didn't implement all the pieces. Yet if you were to ask these very people they'd say it just didn't work for us. And if one were allowed to push for more detail you'd find they left out a key part of the program and that is where the house of cards came tumbling down. Me: 57 Her: 54 M: 31 years Kids(DS23, DD20, DS18)

Re: Marriage Builders cafeteria plan? Radio show 2-14 MrAlias #2706562 02/15/13 09:54 AM
Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas M MelodyLane OP Member
OP MelodyLane Member M Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas	Originally Posted by MrAlias Yet if you were to ask these very people they'd say it just didn't work for us. And if one were allowed to push for more detail you'd find they left out a key part of the program and that is where the house of cards came tumbling down. I agree with this 100%. There is no magic formula to this program, but this forum is chock full of posters who posted for YEARS about one element of the program and never improved their marriages. They left out the POUA or the PORH or did a "one sided POJA" and then wondered why their marriage never improved one bit. As a professional corner cutter myself, I learned the hard way that it is all or nothing with MB. Dr Harley has an engineers mind and already cut the corners. The program is very precise. "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101

Re: Marriage Builders cafeteria plan? Radio show 2-14 MrAlias #2706563 02/15/13 09:55 AM
Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas M MelodyLane OP Member
OP MelodyLane Member M Joined: Apr 2001 Posts: 92,985 Likes: 1 Texas	When that clip goes to archives I will post it. It was great! "It is not the critic who counts; not the man who points out how the strong man stumbles, or where the doer of deeds could have done them better. The credit belongs to the man who is actually in the arena.." Theodore Roosevelt Exposure 101

Re: Marriage Builders cafeteria plan? Radio show 2-14 MelodyLane #2710491 03/06/13 11:13 AM
Joined: Nov 2010 Posts: 20,438 Likes: 4 Moved to Uranus B BrainHurts Member
BrainHurts Member B Joined: Nov 2010 Posts: 20,438 Likes: 4 Moved to Uranus	Originally Posted by MelodyLane When that clip goes to archives I will post it. It was great! Is this it? Radio Clip on Marriage Builders Cafeteria Plan? FWW/BW (me) WH 2nd M for both Blended Family with 7 kids between us Too much hurt and pain on both sides that my brain hurts just thinking about it all.

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