Thanks everybody! Please pray that this job comes through for me! !

His excuse for seeking out these women is that I don't meet his needs even though he agrees we were best friends, didn't really fight, no money or sex problems, shared goals and dreams...etc.

Forget about his excuses. This is the reason why he has affairs.

I am praying that you follow the advice on this thread:

1. expose his multiple affairs
2. get another job asap
3. go into Plan B
4. move away

Have you seen this? Please Explain Gaslighting

You don't meet his needs. He has a need to be with a variety of scum and you cannot fulfill that need!

He's been cheating on you for over a decade. If you were in any way sub par he would have left.

It's really up to you if you want this for life.

Expose him at work, including this, and you will no longer be working next door to him.

Whatever it was he confided about the 16 year old, it must have been far more than they crossed paths in the hallway since it caused you to file for divorce.

Alarming! He really has no business working around impressionable young people, with such a low moral compass. I would expose him at work immediately too, because as a teacher YOU also have an obligation to protect students from harm, and his lack of morals and the fact that he confides this to female students is harmful.

Definitely expose this. If he is this indiscrete the whole school will be talking about him and you are implicated if you do not report it.

My administration have been given a heads up by a friend I work with and they have not even followed up on it. She is in his room alone with him every prep hour--with the door shut and STILL nobody has "swung by" to see what's up. Not much more I can do unfortunately.

I went back and read all the posts I posted under the username Teddy Bear back in 2000. What a heartbreaking thing. Mitzi...you DID post back and forth with me then. Absolutely NOTHING has changed since then. His words are the same...my actions are the same. How upsetting to know I have been stuck in this sick cycle for so long.

What the heck is WRONG with me?

Please continue praying that this other job opportunity works out for me. If it does...I will most likely be able to take a leave of absence with all of my sick days until the next job starts. That would be a blessing of EPIC proportions!!

Baloney!!!

There is plenty YOU can do.

YOU contact the administration and expose his history.

YOU contact the childs parents and put them on alert so they can protect their daughter.

Now, by doing nothing, you are an accomplice to whatever transsires when you could have saved this poor immature child.

LTL

I have no proof of anything except he has confided in her that we are separated and that he lets her work in his room alone every day on his prep--door shut. She is in front of the window of the door though.

Our school has no rule/policy against this. The administration is aware but hasn't done anything.

Go over the schools head, alert the education authority, police or social services. Isnt there a whistle blowing policy? My God do something. This poor girl can't.

The school needs to hear it from you accompanied by proof of his affairs. Tell them you're leaving but they need to know this.Why did you get a friend to do it?

This is referring to a high school student?

You are in a position to protect her, and she needs your protection.

Is there a reason you haven't walked up to open the door yourself?

Her parents need to know immediately. There are few things so heartbreaking as picking up the pieces with your child after being violated sexually. Even if she thinks she is willing (it was not forceful rape), in time she will realize how taken advantage of and used she was by this older man, and it will be a traumatizing thing for her to get through.

If I were the parent and this came to my attention, I would have two punches to deliver - and two people I could probably never forgive. One to the jerk who violated my daughter, and one to the person who knew of it during and stood by.

Even if she is in front of the door the whole time (and who is watching the WHOLE time), clearly he is softening her up.

What adult male wants to spend that much time alone with a 16 year old for no reason?

Edited to add: And especially an adult male who already did something so out of line with a different 16 year old that it caused you to file for divorce.

Maybe let the administration know in WRITING that your WH is a sex addict and a serial cheater and you know he has already crossed the line with this 16 yr old.

Has your WH's serial cheating been exposed to your daughters?

I didn't get a friend to do it. She just did it first because the opportunity presented itself before I could.

Admin knows about the serial affairs too. Daughters know age appropriate details.

This is the same 16 year old who caused me to file. There aren't two.

I have told him it is wrong for her to be in there with the door closed...he thinks I'm just being controlling. I have no leg to stand on though because technically there are no rules/policies against this. I looked and he isn't the only male teacher who does this. The only thing I know 100% is that she brings him lunch/coffees and that he has confided in her that we are separated.