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MelodyLane, I understand all of that. Maybe my question isn't clear. I'm trying to again say that I do not feel safe falling back in love with him at this time. I do not think that is a good idea for our long term success because of the risk of us falling back into old patterns or him holding even more resentment toward me because he doesn't quite understand or buy into this concept of separating his ENs from mine. IOW, fulfilling my needs doesn't equate to me owing him something. I will do things for him because I'm in love with him and want him to be happy. This, I believe, is where I have sorely failed in our marriage. I did love him, but I think I did things for him (sex and allowing him to do things that hurt me) out of guilt and obligation.
*Me - 38
*Him -37
*Met 1/15/99; engaged 12/24/03; married 8/22/04
*DS 6/2/05, DD 12/3/07, DD 2-29-12
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If you lose the honesty, you lose the marriage. --Smile
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He has never been my "hero".
*Me - 38
*Him -37
*Met 1/15/99; engaged 12/24/03; married 8/22/04
*DS 6/2/05, DD 12/3/07, DD 2-29-12
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If you lose the honesty, you lose the marriage. --Smile
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SmileADay, since there is not a question being asked of posters, we are going to lock this thread. If you change your mind and decide to use the Marriage Builders program, please let us know and we will unlock it so you can get help and guidance in the steps. Thank you.
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