What have you done to confirm there is no affair?

I am home all the time, for the past two years I have not been anywhere without my spouse other than picking up kids or going out with them. My computer and cell phone are always available to look into, I am not sure how else to confirm I am not doing anything behind his back.

I was asking what have you done to confirm that your H isn’t having an affair?

Dr. Harley stated in your radio show that you need to confirm that your H isn’t having an affair.

The same, we are literaly under one roof all the time, we don't spend any time apart, I have access to his e-mail and phone, it is simply impossible given our lifestyle.

I think that Dr Harley said that if you were able to convince him that an affair isn't possible, because you are with him all the time and have access to his devices, then his other suggestion was that your husband might not have been in love with you when the affair came to light. The affair would have given him an "out", as it were.

The thing is, Dr Harley didn't know why your husband wasn't responding at the time that you wrote, but he said that there was something odd about him. He said that if the wife works as hard on recovery as you have done, when a man decides to stay in the marriage he does not keep resisting. There had to be a reason why your husband was behaving so unusually after that length of time.

You've said that you have been doing much better than you were when you wrote to Dr Harley last year, so your husband's recent withdrawal is even more puzzling. I thought there must be something behind it, hence my suggestion of his being triggered by your job or your housing situation.

We don't know what it is, but there is a reason. I urge you to write to Dr Harley again, remind him of the date of your radio show, and update him. He will keep in contact with you and help you get to the bottom of this.

I agree with SugarCane, please write Dr. Harley again and please let us know what he says.