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My husband claimed to agree to a child prior to our marriage but apparently only did so to avoid losing me. (I had called of wedding because he didn't want children). I STUPIDLY believed him and now he won't even discuss it. We've been married 11 months and we are both 33 yrs old. We originally agreed to have a single child after 2 years. I must wean off of medication before TTC so now is the time to start. He only makes annoyed faces, negative comments, and/or says NOTHING when I talk about it. Also makes enthusiastic references to getting a vasectomy. I think just to tease me - cruel in my opinion. I know this is my fault because I shouldn't have married him. I don't want to divorce but don't know how I'll ever be happy in a childless, loveless marriage. HELP.
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Joined: May 2000
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I know just how you feel but I still don't really understand how things changed for me. My husband had said that he wanted one more child when we got married(I had one from a previous relatioship)Then out of the blue he said he wanted a vascetomy. He was doing the same thing your H is doing. Finally after arguing nonstop for a couple of weeks one of his guy friends said something to change his mind. It turned out that he was trying to hold on to a part of his single hood. I don't really have any advice expect to hang in there in listening to your H. I know it is hard not to get mad and hurt when he says these things but if you keep calm and try to meet him half way then maybe he will do the same. I just wanted to let you know that you are not alone. Good Luck and God Bless.
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Thanks Valentine. I really want to just move on and not be mad at him but feel that I've been "trapped". He basically gets mad at me if I bring up anything that's bothering me so discussions seem out of the question. At this point I don't know why he married me. I will try to keep calm like you said but I don't think I can hide my unhappiness. Hopefully something will change his mind too but if not I don't know what I'll do. Thanks for your support.
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