I have been with my now wife for 8ys since she was 16 whe have been married for 1 year.... she told me 2 weeks ago that she wanted to leave. We had a big argument and discussion including crying and hurting... finding out the she has resented me for 5 yrs because I am bad with my money and don't help enough around the house, but was to scared to tell me..<P>To shorten this.. she moved to her parents and I was told that she hadn't given up on us she just needed some space.. anyway her dad cracked up at us a week after she moved in telling her to sort it out and stuff like that...she was very upset and thought her dad kicked her out... so reluctantly she moved back home.. I told her that I would give her her space at home, sleep in different bedrooms if need be.. but when she came home put all her stuff back were it used to be nick-nack and so forth, then proceded to sleep in my bed with me..<P>I thought I would take the ball and run with it.. I was going to leave her alone for a few weeks and then see what happened... so I changed I started cooking all the meals and cleaning and washing, she did not lift a finger at all that week... I thought I wsa doing really, really well... then Sunday just gone she tells me that she is going back to her parents place... she needs her space... she reckons that she tried to give it a go but it just wasn't working...I don't think that she did...<P>I love my wife with all my being and I hae told her that I not giving up without a fight... that Sunday after we had our crying session again.. I told her just tell me you havn't given up on me.. and she said she hadn't.<P>But know I am looking down the barrell of her moving out again, it was hard enough the first time, but the second will be 60 times as bad... She told me that she still loved me.. but I don't know if she really meant it.. It was our Anniversary today, I wished her happy Anniversary and got nothing back, I did however get an Ilove you mouthed to me again... maybe just another lie..<P>I have asked her about another guy and she told me there is nothing going on so I beleive her... I want her to go counciling but she keeps saying she has said all she want's to say there is nothing left to work out.. I don't want to lose my iwfe... she has been my life for 8ys and without her I don't want a life.... can anyone help me

I don’t know how much I can help but I can offer this. <P>Learn some of Harley’s concepts from this web site.<BR> <BR>Learn what a Plan A is and start one today. <P>EN’s (Emotional Needs) are an important ingredient to any relationship and Financial Support typically ranks high in a woman’s EN’s list, so what she is saying may in fact be very real to her.<P>Also the book His Needs/Her Needs available here will give you some insight on creating a good marriage.<P>Now I will also strongly suggest you schedule an appointment with one of the Harley’s. Do this for yourself, even if your W won’t join in. “It’s worth it believe me” They can offer much guidance in this area.<P>hang in there, and don't make any rash decisions at this point, your in shock<P>oswald<BR>