I have been told by my wife today that she doesnt want to fight for the relationship and refused to go to counsellin. I have been told by peole that the way she has said athinks and the was she has to try and hold back tears that she still does love me and there may be a chance for us yet i just have to give her space and not push like i have been. i wont call her now till next week only to ask her how she is and how the kids (my step children) are getting on and nothing more.

I have pushed so much that i think i may of pushed any chance of this marriage workin away along with her. so i have written this letter to her do you think it will do more harm than good if i send it or should i send it. i dont want her to think i have given up on our marriage but i want her to know that i respect her decision.


Dear Bridie,

I am writing this letter to let you know that I am I’m love with you and nothing will change that, however I have realised that you want to move on with your life and don’t want me to be part of your life anymore. I have to respect that decision, I want you to know that I don’t like the decision but I have to respect it.

I would like to apologise to you for not listening to you when I should of, calling you names and hurting you, I'm sorry for mentally pushing you down a flight of stairs, I know I have hurt you and I now know that if I had listened to what you were saying we wouldn’t be in this mess now.

I hope you know that I didn’t mean to cause you the pain and hurt I have, I didn’t mean to cause the Ryan, Leon and Tyler any upset and I don’t mean to make their mummy cry. Please tell them I’m sorry.

I want you to know that I am always going to be here for you no matter what, you are my lover and my best friend, even thought you don’t want my love anymore I hope that you will always know my friendship is here.

I am still looking for a job and I think I may of even found a career path I want to take which will also mean bettering my self educationally as well so while I do a course I will be working as well, I will also be working on all my floors to make sure that they can’t drive the ones I love out of my life again, so I can become a better person.
Someone that people will respect be pleased to know and be glad to have in their company.

Even though the fight for our marriage has come to an end which I never ever wanted to happen, I would like you to know that you helped me see my flaws and that has lead me to get help, you will always live on in my heart and my head as the beautiful princess that walked into my life and showed me the way, no matter what you will always be remembered in anything I do. You have changed my life for the better. I may of only realised now that you were right all along and I make you this promise now, I will change to better myself to correct those flaws and I will not stop getting help until I have done so. I am great full for every thing you have done for me.

Just because I am not there doesn’t mean I have stopped thinking of you it doesn’t mean I don’t love you, I will always be pleased for you to call or write to me with any problems or just to talk and let me know how you and the children are getting on. To let me know how your mom and dad brothers and sisters. I know I have asked for you to let me know how everyone is getting on in letters but ultimately that is up to you.

I want you to know that if you ever do find it in your heart to say lets give it a go I will be here to say yes, as you know I desperately want you back, and who wouldn’t want part of their heart, soul and reason for living back, I regretfully respect your wishes and for one last time would like to say I Love You, I Miss you and I’m Sorry

I will love you always
With all my heart, mind, body, soul and all my being


Love
Your Grieving Husband Richard

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</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Pick on Nick:
<strong> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Pick on Nick:
<strong> </font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by Pick on Nick:
<strong> Just a personal opinion.
Don't send that letter!
Wait a little longer.... seems like your being very pushy on one hand.
Often we don't see the problems that we face within. You can't force your wife to go through therapy so then... you should go on your own. I personally feel there is something your not telling us. But thats OK.
I hope this all works out.
One more thing... you should apologise yourself to Ryan, Leon, and Tyler not ask her to apologise for you!
Therapy helps you help others. When you change, others around you will change too.

Women do not like third party apologies esp. when it comes to kids! Do that yourself <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" />

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