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today is my husbands 25th birthday and it is the first time in 9yrs that I have not been with him to celebrate....I am really upset and dont have any questions it is just hard.....he is waring the birthday gift I got him(gold rope bracalet)......not that it means anything.....I just want this to e over but know it is far from over....<P>amanda<P>------------------<BR>I will love my husband "Always & Forever"<BR>
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I know it probably doesn't help, but birthdays, holidays, etc. during these times are tough. I assume that your husband is or was having an affair. Not sure what more I can say, but I think I do know how your feeling. Better days to come.
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well I just found out that he took the ow out with him and his brother last night.......Maybe I should just throw in the towel and give up....he is slapping me in the face(or that is how it feels)......at least when he is home(in CA) I dont know what he is doing but when he comes to visit and brings her with it is really hard.......I feel like I have no hope left.....<P>------------------<BR>I will love my husband "Always & Forever"<BR>
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anyone there......<P>I am so lost at this point.....<P>amanda<P>------------------<BR>I will love my husband "Always & Forever"<BR>
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Avance,<P>It sounds like you husband is still seeing the other woman. Have you had a chance to read any books on affairs. You might want to get a copy of "Surviving an Affair" by Dr. Harley. You can order it from this site. It will help you to understand why the affair happened, what its all about, and how it will end and what you need to do to keep it from happening again. Don't expect to much from your husband right now, especially if he is still seeing the other woman. His priorities aren't with you right now. <P>Good luck and patience.
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thanks for the advice.....I have the book on order(saa) and I have also had a session with steve harley....It is just hard when EVERYONE can see the mistake he is making except him....he has to much to lose but cant see that right now.....I just hope he does sometime..<P>------------------<BR>I will love my husband "Always & Forever"<BR>
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Hang in there, Avance. Sounds like you are doing everything you can. Read all you can, post here, & contacting Harley was a very good idea. And, pray, pray, pray.<P>You cannot control your H right now. All you can control is you, and your actions. A word of advice, remain as calm and level-headed as you can. Remember, patience is a virtue.
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Avance: I'm so sorry. Remember that your H isn't in his right state of mind. He isn't thinking rationally and is doing all these stupid & hurtful things.<P>Please do something nice for yourself...take a nice bubble bath, light some candles, relax and pamper yourself. As hard as it is, try to keep your mind on just taking care of YOU.<P>Hang in there.
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thanks for all the advice.....i am going to try but it is very hard......I am hoping if I back off a little and give him the space he thinks he needs he will miss us......I pray every day!!!!!!<P>amanda ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) <P>------------------<BR>I will love my husband "Always & Forever"<BR>
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