Well Fri. night I was at my mom's and my mom & bro went out to get a dishwasher and were only 20 min away from our house and went to pick him up. OW had called him and asked him to go hang out and have a few drinks with her, her b/f and another (male) friend. He turned her down, but only bc another (male) friend had called and asked if he wanted to go shoot pool. He told me that was the only reason he didn't go.
To explain the thing he lied about--
We made an agreement that he would tell me everything when it comes to contact with OW and a girl he talks to on the internet. I've known about the girl on the internet, and I've told him before that I don't care what happens as long as it stays in the internet. No phone calls, no letters, no meeting, no giving out our address, phone no., etc. Yeah, I know, bad idea. Anyway, I snooped, found emails they sent to each other (baby this, sweetheart that, I miss you, blah, blah, blah) after he told me they had not spoken. His excuse: "emails are not the same as speaking". <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> So we basically had a big blowout. He thinks it's ok for him and ow to be friends and I don't. He lied to me about emails, his excuse being bc he knew it would cause an argument. He threw a fit about me snooping, called me a jealous b**** and said I don't trust him. Well DUH! How in the he!! are you supposed to trust somebody who has cheated, lied, and is still lying??? Oh yeah, he said I don't have to go behind his back--he will show me anything I want to see, but I tried that and he throws a fit about not having any privacy. I told him if he didn't have anything to hide it wouldn't be a problem and he can look through anything of mine he wants to; I have nothing to hide.
The way it ended up was I told him I will not tolerate dishonesty and I took off my ring. He has said since that he still wants to work on things but I don't see where he is willing to actually do anything.
Btw, our 1st anniversary was yesterday. Weird thing happened--I was in the store picking out a card for him and found out when i got home that the one I had was NOT the one I picked out. The one I picked out was suitable, not really mushy, but the one I somehow wound up with said this:
Our love is stronger than any problems we may face,
and on our anniversary and always,
I'm so thankful that we have each other to share the ups and downs of life.
I don't know what I'd ever do without you.
I love you with all my heart.
Simple mistake?
Divine intervention?
I don't know, but I went ahead and signed it and gave it to him. We haven't argued since.
