Hi everyone. I am a 29 year old mom of 2. I have a 3 year old and a 3 month old. I do in home day care, so you can imagine I am never bored! I am just beside myself lately...... my husband of almost 4 years, is agood Dad, but his needs are always first. we both enjoy fishing, and anything outdoors. before we were married we were together enjoying all of our freedom. we never stayed home. Now that we have our littlest one, I am left behind. my husband says I act old and he doesn't want to stay home and get old and fat. well if it wasn't so much responsibility on my part sure I'd be game to run all the time too. I feel esp. since I am nursing, I have made huge sacrifices for my family. everyone comes first. Now, though, I am so resentful towards my husband for it always being about "him". I have no desire to have a sexual relationship, simply because I am angry and hurt. I mean the guy went duck hunting for gosh sakes the next morning after we got married!!!! if there is a season than there is something going on. I USED to be a part of all that, but it's hard with kids, esp, a baby. I am afraid of how long this can go on. I have felt "neglected and used" off and on for 3 years now! please help! p.s I am fun loving and enjoy life.... I want to fight for our happiness, but it takes 2 =(

Sunnyjk;
One thing I have learned is this,There's things he likes to do,things you like to do and there are things families do.Things he likes to do with his freinds like hunting or fishing and you enjoy that too great.But sometimes he will want to do things either by himself or with feinds and so will you but there is no reason that you two can't find someone to take the kids for a weekend and disappear or there is no excuss for you two to take the kids somewhere on the weekend. But duck hunting the day after your wedding is what I would call inconsiderate!!!! :mad and I'm a guy and if I did that to my future wife she would feed my heart to the pigs.Right now I have to go I got a date with my better half so we'll talk later tonight.

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Sunnyjk;
Sorry I did not get back to you last night my date with the GF went longer that we had planned <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> . I can't stay long cause we meet for coffee on Fridays and then I go to work but I will check in later today when I'm done work.

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Boy, can I relate to your thread! My H plays sports, and before we had kids (3 & 1) I always went with him... Now I am left home with the kids! Please be careful with your resentment. My H never understood my anger, and was not able to talk to me about things... so he found someone else who "understood" him... Add that to my already feeling like sh*t...

My H's A is long over and now we make sure to do things together. And, yes, he was willing to give up some of his activities for the sake of our family.

You NEED to tell your H how you feel. Tell him you miss being part of the fun, and that you feel "trapped" home with the kids!

My H didn't understand this until he was home for a while (after surgery), and I was the one running out (store, etc.). He was left home with the kids! Needless to say, he now appreciates what I do for him and our kids! Most men have no concept of what is like being a mom!!!

I don't know about you, but as a stay at home mom, I don't get a lunch break, or a vacation, or sick days!!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

I wish you the best of luck.... TALK TO HIM!!!

-mcnyh

I can relate to that too. I am 30 - married 5 yrs - 3 kids (3yr old and 5month old twins).
My husband goes to the hunting lease more often in the last 5 months than he has ever been since I have known him! (10 years)

I love to fish - I out-fish him every time I go - but I haven't been since my first child was born! I haven't ever been hunting - but not because I don't want to.

I feel the same way as you do - sunnyjk. I wish he would want to help.