Don’t know why I cant find any love in my heart for my W only anger.It is now 10 weeks since I left home and something that has scared me is that there are no more tears left to weep , I cant find that love I had for my W anywhere within me .All that I find is anger and resentment. I have completely shut her out of my life, don’t want to see her don’t even want to speak to her. Since creating the distance by moving out I have started to see my W from a different angle and I don’t like what Im seeing. My parents say it’s the scales falling off my eyes. I personally think the change has come about because of what she has done towards my kids. Letting the OM come into my house and letting him take control as if this was the family he made . ( She cant see the wrong as she’s in LA LA Land as described in this Forum ) which I think is hogwash. These are her flesh and blood and Ive lost all my respect for her.<P>This coming weekend the kids were supposed to spend with me. Last night my wife phones me up and tells me, Michael is throwing tantrums he wants to sleep at my sisters house , and Ive told him he cannot as its during the week. She also told me that she hid his cell phone as he wanted to speak to me.<BR>I then spoke to my son, he was crying his heart out ,telling me that he wanted me to pick him up right away as he wanted to stay with me as My Mother-in-law had told him that he was the Devils Child ( this is the second occurrence firstly with my youngest son now with my eldest ) .After soothing my child he eventually stopped crying . I told him that I would pick him up on Friday afternoon him and his brothers. He began to cry again explaining that his mom had told him that they could not see me on the weekend. I was so furious , then my wife spoke to me. She told me that the reason was that after every weekend that I had the children ,the children would be uncontrollable for a couple of days.<P>I have informed my lawyers of her action and are currently setting up an appointment with a welfare officer to have counseling with my children as I cannot see my kids getting so emotionally hurt over what my W deceptions has caused.<P>When you moved out from home has any of your spouses allowed OM or OW to move in with them and the kids immediately ? Is this a healthy situation for the kids ? <BR>

By all means see a lawyer regarding visitation of your children, and their living conditions. Boy is she playing hard!!!<P>I know a little of what you feel regarding the children having to mix with the OM...as my kids had a taste of this on the weekend, too. The 8 year old is devastated...he knew just what "daddy's friend" really was, and besides she told them she was daddy's girlfriend.<P>I think why did he expose them to that??? I think he wanted them to see he was moving on.<P>Of course this situation is very different from yours, he's LIVING there! This is NOT good for the children. They will be so confused, especially so soon after splitting up.<P>These WS's don't have a brain to save themselves...they are so, so selfish.<P>Anyway, I hope you can get some relief with the lawyers.<P>Nina

I haver had the same feelings as you do, I think it is the way they treat us the things they say and do that aren't neccessary. We tend to want to get far away from these people to protect ourself. By distancing myself from my EXW, I to began to see her different, started to wonder how I was will this woman so many years and put up with her. I can see now she was not good for me and was hurting me for along time before her Affair. It is funny how I accepted and believed that every marriage was like mine, and all woman were like her, I have found out that was a lie, and alot of things she told me and convinced me of were lies, I have had people tell me different things than what she always told me and have found out that there are to many good woman out there who love and care, to want to be with my ex who has only hurt aand tried to destroy me <P>