The night before our anniversary was her birthday. He spent around $70 on dinner.

Then the next day (our anniversary) he takes her to dinner again ($75 ) and spends $115.90 at VICTORIA'S SECRET !

ON OUR ANNIVERSARY !

She's fat. So what the hell does he want to see her chubby fat body in victoria's secret for? It's nice lingerie but it doesn't do miracles. The cow !

He listed the dinner as dinner with his boss. I called his boss..... he's lying.

Then he has the gall to say the $115.90 was a gift certificate he bought for ME as a reconciliation gift but then changed his mind !!!

UNBELIEVABLE !!! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Embarrassed]" src="images/icons/blush.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

Plus he bought her $100.70 worth of flowers at a flower shop!

He's NEVER bought me flowers like that.

I am SO HURT AND ANGRY!

PLUS, he's listing a bunch of crap as assets I currently have. I have no idea even WHAT these items are - let alone OWN them!

Unfortunately it's my word against his. How can I prove he's lying?

Please Help !

THIS IS SO UNFAIR !

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How do I deal?

I have to admit, I'd be ticked, too! But then again, my XH, before we were DV paid $600 restitution to get his little babe's driver's license re-instated along with who knows how many dinners, how much booze, etc.

My attorney did say if you can prove, at least here in Iowa, that if joint assets (money we earned during our marriage) went to pay for something for HER, that he owed me an equal amount when we split everything.

I didn't press him for it, so I don't know how hard it would have been to actually prove, though.

If you think someone his hiding assets, there are forensic accountants who can do lots of digging, but I'm sure they're expensive. There are probably easier ways.

Have you talked to your attorney about this?

Tess, My STBXWH spent THOUSANDS within weeks of moving "alone" into a furnished rental that MOW just "visited," which only stopped when I reported all our credit cards stolen. I've been supporting him and MOW for four years while trying to get divorced, working both his job and mine at our jointly owned business. And, MOW is also fat and he spent HUNDREDS on her - not at VS, but at a sex shop in a nearby city.

So, I can definitely relate. Like lordslady, I can't prove what he spent was on MOW - he'd claim it was for our business, so for the sake of my sanity and peace of mind, I've had to let it go. When you're so hurt and angry, it's hard to separate the emotional from the legal issues. Talk to your attorney and figure out what you can do to protect yourself financially. Many people made this suggestion to me in the beginning but I was too distraught and too focused on trying to win back my WH to do this until it was too late to do much about it.

Hi Tess,

Haven't had time to post lately. WS on the computer more often. I'm mad just reading your post. How about you send me his email address and we'll spam him? Or how about we fill out about a hundred of those post cards that say, "Sign me up for a free trial of your magazine?" Just a few ideas. Hope they make you smile.

My WS is further confusing me by being nice and acting like he wants to "fix" this M finally. Where was he the past couple of years? Of course he still hasn't managed to mention OW but says he isn't being dishonest about anything. He also bought her some jewelry a few months back but lied about that to me saying it was something for work. (I called the company when the credit card bill came. HA!) And all this while he wears clothing that OW bought him around the house. Am thinking of spilling bleach on them the next time I do laundry. Do you think he'd believe it was an accident?

Hang in there...I think anger helps us do what we really need to do.

Tess,

I almost forgot. OW has a BIG NOSE...in fact most of OW have had large noses. Maybe he has a thing about that? My nose is nice and small and perfect looking. HA!

Tess,

I almost forgot. OW has a BIG NOSE...in fact most of OW have had large noses. Maybe he has a thing about that? My nose is nice and small and perfect looking. HA!

Stillshocked, you never fail to make me smile!

hehehehehehehe <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" /> Hey, if you're up to it I'll supply the email addy. hehe <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

Right after he left in Sept. a bunch of people posted things on his band's Guestbook - but the singer goes through everything before any posts are allowed to appear. Shucks!

OH AND GET THIS .... THEIR NEW VIDEO ON THE SITE TOWARDS THE END THEY INCLUDE A SHOT OF CHERYL KISSING MY HUSBAND!

THAT *&%$#@ !

OOOOOHHH. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Mad]" src="images/icons/mad.gif" />

I say CLOROX away baby ! <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

You go with your perfect little nose!

Hey Tess,

You make me smile too! We're too good for these creeps!