I am been posting now since I found out about this forum so you can look at the other posting to read about my situation.
h as you know is behind in cs, because he never wanted me to find out, and just assume that they would start taking from his pay. Well they did not and now he is behind and must make regular payments and behind payments, and it will be coming out of his pay, because the court said they were behind in processing the information. I really don't want the ow to get anything, but I told h that he must mail in the money to the courts until it start coming out of his check(if he would only told me about this mess before,I would made him mail in the $$,It still would had hurt me then or now). So I did get the information for him and mail the check to the courts.
H states that he is very sorry for his mistake and the money problems that this has created. Keep in mind the money problems were still there but is worst now, because this is money that create an even more hardship for us.
This is what I need advice on. H states that the clerk at the courts told him that he could talk to the ow and see if she will erase the behind cs, and say he do not owe it to her(Which I feel she will not)and this would help him a little with the money problems, and h and ow could agree to h paying her directly and not through the courts, and they would not have a part of it anymore and the money would no longer come out of his check. H has not talk to the ow since the genetic testing which was done in 5/01.
What do you think about this? Please give me so feedback.
Well, I am off to church to pray for us all.
ps h states that if she would agree he would mail payments to her, because he still does not want any contact.
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married 20 years - together 29
4 children
oc born 9/00
found out 12/17/02
