I don't know if anyone still remembers me, I just about lived here for the longest time after I discovered the STBX's affair, and her pregnancy. I see some familiar names around like Catnip, and a whole lot of others I don't remember being around. So much hurt still floating around in the world. At this end of things, I am much better than I was back then, I am filing for divorce now, and have a better sense of myself. This whole experience has taught me many valuable lessons. I am still finding new strengths that I didn't know I had. For all those who are just now starting to go through the pain of an affair with an OC resulting, hold on to your faith, hang tough, and dig deep inside yourself to find your hidden strengths. They are there. Think things through, and make sure that you do what is best for you. That's the best advice I can think of to give. Don't do what others think is right, do what you feel you can in your heart. That will get you through. Hugs to you all.

It's so good to hear from you again after such a long absence. I've been gone more than I am here and just happened to post this weekend.

I'm so sorry your marriage didn't work out, ktgirl. I know how hard you tried to make it work. You sound good, though...like you are focused on the future and what it might hold.

I'm glad you stopped by. Most of the oldtimers are gone or just come back occasionally to check in. Tigger is still here regularly and K pops in now and then. It's been very, very quiet this weekend and there are a lot of new names on the site.

Keep the faith, ktgirl. I'm so glad you stopped by to give us an update. I hope you will keep us informed of all the exciting and interesting things that can happen when a liberated babe is once again on the loose! Just remember your MB principles when Mr. Right Up Your Alley shows up to make an honest woman of you...to insure "happily ever after".

God bless, ktgirl...may the heavens smile upon you.

Catnip =^^=

Catnip,
Hi!!! I feel like the heaven's already have smiled on me. I am seeing someone who is actually MATURE and SENSIBLE!!! We have been dating for about a year now, and he is soooooo good for me. He understands everything I've been through, he's been my friend for years, and helped me through a lot of rough spots during that time. I think this one is a keeper, but I am not rushing things because right now I just want to focus on having a normal relationship with a good person, where I don't have to worry about cheating, OW's OC's, anything in that line. For someone who's been through this whole wringer, I am not even having issues with trusting him!!!! I was afraid before I started to date again, that I would have problems in that area, but he's not my ex, and I see no reason to treat him like that. I am by no means naive enough to think it couldn't happen again, but from what I've seen so far, I think this is gonna be alright.
I just thought I'd pop in and see how everything was going. Glad you happened to pop in at the same time!!!! Take care!

ktgirl I don't know your story but I would caution you against taking things too fast with this new man.

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You sound good. Like you are moving on! Good for you! I wish you the best!

Like you said, you have been through the wringer, so a "normal" relationship is probably like a breath of fresh air for you! I'm happy for you!

And yes, like TMCM said, there is no rush!

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