I know AD. He offered to fix oil leak while I was gone over long-weekend. I'm getting their--slowly--PB is soooo scary though as you said. Too do PB I have to tell my Mom--she doesn't know my parents live 1/4 mile away--she thinks H lives at home because I haven't said otherwise and he's there a lot.

Albany,

I agree w/ you about the individual posts, I think I am beyond help at this point but yeah it is a good idea I think.

Shall I start a "Albany whats going on" topic?

Yes, and i will do one for you and Sunnydale--oh and JT2, KrisM too. I figure KT and AD will chime in and read them and this way it is easier to keep track of who is who with the latest updates

And albany, another thought...You may have him running scared, a little worried, and on his toes, but until he says the words, "I am back and want to fully commit to the M and begin recovery", there is not success. Yes, steps may be toward that end, but don't settle for less, because you will most likely find yourself in the same position as soon as he feels comfortable enough to eat his cake again.

BG~

What, are we twins or something? A lot of the same thoughts today!

Oh, and I'm in agreement with you all starting your own threads. I wanted to suggest it myself, but it's not my thread. It would be easier to follow. I feel some of your situations fall between the cracks once in awhile.

But your Dad knows, right? You don't think he told your Mom? Well either way, you need to tell her. You should tell her regardless of what your next steps will be. You need all the support you can get! Exposure is part of Plan A when you are best able to do damage control.

albany, I really, truly believe you will end up doing better in PB than you think you will. Give yourself some credit. I also happen to believe your H is ripe for it. I think it will work for you guys. I also don't think you would be in PB for very long at all. Some people have been in it as short as 1-2 weeks before their spouses came back and committed to the M. You have to do it right though!!!

Warmest regards, from your friendly, neighborhood, broken record. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Roll Eyes]" src="images/icons/rolleyes.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Razz]" src="images/icons/tongue.gif" /> <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />