Well WH is off on a binge. Started a Tuesday after I tried to discuss issues with him and he's been loaded for bear ever since. Didn't come home from work last night (6:00 p.m.) Has been seen at green dumpsters I'm sure emptying beer bottles out. Took $300 (cash by the way) out of his account and I'm sure gave at least $250 to OW. She tore CS check up and returned because it was drawn on my account (I pay the bills). Obviously he is in the deep deep fog and believes that she'll be on the up and up about money issue. Don't know if he's there some of the time or not the past 24. The vehicle hasn't been parked in front of her dumpy trailer but then again he'll hide things. Kicker is he has my vehicle. I have his clothes all packed and letter written and sealing in envelope. All waiting for him in laundry room. I'd like to pick up and leave myself, but he always makes sure I'm at home with the pets and he knows I won't leave them. He has all of the control. If he would just come home and get them and leave me to try and gain some peace. SICK feeling. I'd like to puke. Has anyone else out a spouse of an alcoholic WH?

inanut: You paid it.........That is her problem she tore it up. You should of written another and told your attorney what happened. As far as paying her.........George bush can send her the check and she has no say in that.

Hi Inanutshell,

I am so sorry. Alcoholics are so difficult. Mine is not one, but my second husband was one.

INS, I know it is hard getting though all of this. But you have to do what is best for YOU! He is hiding in the bottle and will have to come out sometime. And when he does, its going to be bad to wake up and see what all you have lost in the mean time. If he is drinking when he finds his clothes are packed and the letter. Just ask him to leave and get your car and if you have to have him removed. People do things messed up, they wouldn't do sobber, so remember, just let him get his stuff and leave. There is a Alonon (sp) group, should be in the phone book. This group helps in dealing w/ an alcoholic. Keep in touch, and I'm praying for you!
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Thanks Sunny

Still waiting. Haven't heard hide nor hair from him. I've checked credit card and he's gotten gas twice in two days, so he must be putting miles on the vehicle. Everyone I've talked to doesn't think he's holed up in the dumpy, drapes drawn 8 X 40 trailer the OW lives in. I have a hard time believing he would be too with a crying newborn and an 11 year old and a nutty OW that smokes. That's just not his style, but I suppose there's a possibility if she's allowing him to drink there. That's what he's looking for is acceptance. I've tried the local alanon group, it wasn't for me. Again, we live really rurally and even to go to the alanon group it's 25 miles one way. Basically, he's a coward and won't face his problems, so let's just drink them away. His clothes are still packed and letter still waiting and like you said my plan is to jump in my vehicle and leave when he gets home and he can move his stuff peacefully into his and leave. Then the reality of what he's really done can set in given a week or so I suppose. At the very least he'll show up for work tomorrow and I can then take his vehicle with packed clothes down there and get my vehicle. Then there won't be a confrontation at all. He's one sick puppy and I've been allowing him to continue to be sick for a long time. Thanks so much for listening and replying.

Hi Inanutshell,

I am so sorry he is gone and you don't know where he is. I am sure it is rough, and I am sorry you are going through this.