Hi friends,

Today my H told me that he would like us to go see
OC this weekend for a couple of hours. I'm going of course because I don't think OW should have the privilege of spending time alone with my H & OC. We went to OW's house once before around christmas so that I could see OC for the first time. The visit went smoothly but as I watched OW interact with my H while he held OC I could see the way she looked at him. We all were in OC's room standing over his crib as OW changed him and OW gave my H Oc's pajamas so that he could dress OC for bed before H and I left. While my H was changing OC's clothes OW was look at H like some lovestruck teenager. These are the moments I think OW fantasized about when she made the decision to keep OC except OW had no idea that I'd be there. I'm sure if I did not go OW would use those vunerable moments to try to be with my H again. My H and I love children but have none together yet and OW knows this. The last time H & I went to see OC my H was so happy to see OC that it was like OW and I were'nt even there, so I know he loves OC and I don't have a problem with that. It was actually beautiful to see him interacting with OC. Meanwhile OW and I had idle chit-chat. H & I are trying to create a comfortable atmosphere so that eventually OC can come and visit with us at our home. I know I would enjoy that so much more than going to OW's. Hopefully after this visit we can make arrangements for OC to come see us. I don't really want to get to know OW that deeply .

Here's to hoping this is the last visit with OW!!!

Tan,

I totally agree with your decision to go to OW's house with your H. I initially allowed my H to go alone for visitations, eventually it became quite apparent that he was rekindling his relationship with OW. I actually got a call from her to confirm that he and I were divorcing (BIG, FAT, LIE). So, kudos to you for being strong enough to sit in her house while she fawns over your H. You're a strong woman, stronger than I was.

I too, hope that your second visit goes well. I hope that you and your H will be allowed visits in your home with baby soon, so you both will have ample time to bond with OC.

Stick to your guns...I applaud you. Good luck and BIG (((hugs))).

AVNL

Why can't oc come to your home? Sounds like your husband will be a great father and that you are accepting and loving about it.

Get visitation set up and you don't have to go to her house at all!!! Just drop in, pick up the child and scoot away.

Is CS setup?

Hi LynnG and Thanks,

Yes CS is setup and my H really wants to be able to spend time with OC and I want that for him as well. As I said my H and I have no children together so we are kind of excited about getting to have OC to ourselves sometime. We can't wait until our first overnight <img border="0" title="" alt="[Big Grin]" src="images/icons/grin.gif" />

Hi AVNL,

Thanks for the big hugs!!!!!
I think my presence in this phase is important and necessary. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" />

</font><blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr /><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Originally posted by tan_is_crushed:
<strong> Hi AVNL,

Thanks for the big hugs!!!!!
I think my presence in this phase is important and necessary. <img border="0" title="" alt="[Wink]" src="images/icons/wink.gif" /> </strong></font><hr /></blockquote><font size="2" face="Verdana, Arial">Of course it is <img border="0" title="" alt="[Smile]" src="images/icons/smile.gif" /> Your going to be a big part of this child's life and needs to feel just as comfortable with you as your husband. Good luck and have fun with oc.

Tan, I think you are a very big person for wanting the C to go smoothly. Has visitations been set up yet? Or are you working towards getting this done. You said c/s was done but not visitations? <img border="0" title="" alt="[Confused]" src="images/icons/confused.gif" /> The OC is still young but if you plan on having the C you need to get everything set up legally.
But, back to the visits, Just breathe! Its good for the OC to get to know ya'll and get use to you thats a great start! Kuddo's!
<img border="0" title="" alt="[Cool]" src="images/icons/cool.gif" /> Sunny D