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Reading the posts for the past few weeks, it's suddenly struck me that a heck of a lot of us have been married for about 16 - 17 years....too many of us for it to just be coincidence. Looks like the theory of a '7-year itch' is way off track... <P>Just out of interest, how many of us were in our 16th-17th year of marriage when the affair happened?<P>Me for a start...17 years in August.<P>Paint.
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Breaking the trend....6 years this past December.<P>[This message has been edited by Rick37 (edited June 26, 2001).]<P>OK, I'm fessing up. I put 7 years and had to quickly edit it back to 6....I got mixed up. Maybe that is our problem??????<P>I had to rethink what year this was ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) <p>[This message has been edited by Rick37 (edited June 26, 2001).]
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Nope...almost 12 years of marriage (also August)...15 years in relationship.<P><BR>Cali
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Paint:<P>Nope. 8 mos in the first; 14 years in the second; (1 year and counting with Z).<P>But, if it means anything, there is "Stalag 17" and Sweet Sixteen.<P>Godspeed,<BR>STL
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Married 18 years when my H's affair started..
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married just four years when the first one happened. Kept happening for six years after that. Would have been married ten years last July.<P>I have heard that it's actually in "stages". There's a four year. seven year, ten year, and so on. So you may not be off the mark. You just made it along to the next stage before he strayed.<P>Snow
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Paint - I fit your theory - A started soon after 16th anniversary, 17 was last month. But, there were too many other influences to place a lot of significance on this one fact.<P>WAT
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Eight years for me and W (WS).<P>Hope to get to nine in September
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Was 8 1/2 years when the A started here. Just had our 10 years last Friday.
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X's affair started right after our 15th. We were separated before our 16th and divorced before the 17th.
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Paint, the A happened shortly after our 17th. Not sure how I will respond for the 18th considering her withdrawl right now and desire not have me show her affection or attention of any sort. I'm pretty sure there will be an 18th though. I'm still working on many more <BR>SG<BR>
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Will be married 6 years this August, 1st A by H was after 1 1/2 years in marriage, back together after 3 months, all was good for 4 years, then H had 2nd A on our 5th year of marriage, which is now. I really don't think there is such a thing as a set year for marriages to go bad, it just happens randomly. I think that since someone out in this world has actually given meaning to something like "the seven year itch", and many others, it actually makes some people think about it and actually take action and use it as an excuse.
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We would have been married 16 years Sept. 1, 2001. Together 21 years.<P>Discovery was approx June/July 1999.<BR>On September 1, 1999, H said marriage was over. HAPPY ANNIVERSARY!<BR>Seperation was April 29th, 2000<BR>Divorce was June 13th, 2001 Ughhh ...<P>Jo<P>------------------<BR>"Remain flexible like a reed, as opposed to an oak which can snap in the wind"<p>[This message has been edited by Resilient (edited June 27, 2001).]
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You're right on the mark with me... Together since 1981, Married since 1985. Just celebrated (LOL) our 16th anniversary. The A started at exactly 15.5 years.<P>The hat
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It was 25 years for us but now I'm wondering about ages rather than length of marriages.
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15 yrs here- my H is 43 and I"m 38. I know a lady who's been married 4 times and she says that men in their forties are very dangerous and restless- theres something about that time of life. I have read alot about men's midlifecrisis stage- that definitely is a factor in some of their affairs.
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Well, it's 50% in the 15-18 years of marriage range...interesting!<P>Paint.
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Wife was 39, at 16 years of marriage when EA began. We're now nearing 20 years of marriage.
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Married 16 yrs 7 months when EA started H 1 month shy of 38, was on his own for a year remote tour in military, had assignment back to where I was from and would probably retire there. Don't think he wanted to do that. Military career coming to an end, depending on promotion. Lots of things fuguring into a MLC, had no close friends to talk with, I guess.
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