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#966859 12/31/01 01:47 AM
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Just a quick update. I made it through Day 2 w/o H much better than Day 1. H stopped by last nite - briefly - to see our son, then said he was tired and "going home to sleep". I took the opportunity to gently reassure him that this was his home, and that he was welcome here - anytime. He seemed very uncomfortable and said he didn't think we should spend the night in the same place together. Although I felt very hurt, I supported him to do what he felt he needed to for himself. I also told him that if he changed his mind, he was welcome to come back anytime, or call me in the middle of the night if he needed to. Today he went on a long motorcycle ride with his buddy who has been married/divorced more times than you can count on two hands. Anyway, I really did not expect to see H afterwards. But not only did he call, he came over, then sheepishly asked if it was okay if he stayed the night here instead of "going to the apartment". Absolutely - of course! We are not sharing a bed, but he is here, I am meeting a need of his, and it is an opportunity to add more deposits into his love bank before he leaves again (or if he leaves). I know that I am a real rookie at this stuff, but it makes sense to me, it gives me hope. Better yet, I don't want to give up without a fight - and this is the most positive way I can think of to fight for the M -- rather than physically abusing each other. Thanks to everyone, and keep posting! I am learning something from everyone.
Terri<p>************
M/F/42
Met in '90, Married '91
One son - 4 years old
D-Day 11/18/01, Plan A 11/31/01

#966860 12/31/01 02:38 AM
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Sounds like you are plan Aing very well. Keep up the good work. Hopefully, your H will wake up soon.


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