Oh wow! How suprised you must have been to hear him.<p>Well, about the reference to killing herself. I don't know what the OM's reasoning would be to tell you something like that unless he was really concerned. I think you may be onto something about her self-esteem and her childhood experiences.<p>I am 31 and have only started to address my issues from my childhood. I am a firm believer that one's childhood directly affects your emotional health as an adult, whether positive or negative.<p>Add to it the drinking and it gets even messier - and scarier.<p>Despite anything else going on, I think that you should address her mental health at this point. BUT keep in mind that she may not admit to anything! Being depressed and suicidal is very embarrassing to some people. It was to me. I didn't admit to anyone for YEARS, even my counselors. I didn't want anyone to know the real me... I thought it was ugly. She may be feeling the same way. I can't tell you how to approach her, I just wanted you to be prepared for denial.<p>I admire you for your concern for her. While I know this other relationship is not good, her mental health is at risk. I hope you can find some way to get through to her.

Oops! I'm still learning how to use the board. This post was supposed to go below.<p>Sorry!