H not with OW but won't come home! - 10/26/04 11:40 AM
I posted a few weeks ago on JFO forum about my situation and received many replies of support and guidance, thank you so much.
I have been lurking since trying to get a better understanding of what happens next but can't seem to find anyone in the same situation as me?!
Is there anyone else in my situation whom I could talk to?
I am the BW and H won't come back to me at all. Married 15 years, know each other 25 in total. We have two sons, both still living at home - 21 and 16. H's OW finished with him after our d-day phone call and moved home. I don't know if there's still contact or not but H vows he is still in love with her and won't come home to me even though he's not with her (he's still living in my city).
I don't understand it - he didn't leave me for the first 3 years of their affair and then was with me on/off for the next two. Now he's not with her at all but won't stay with me?
Can anyone else relate to this or advise me what to do? I still love my husband and want him to come home so we can work on our marriage.
Thank you
SW
I have been lurking since trying to get a better understanding of what happens next but can't seem to find anyone in the same situation as me?!
Is there anyone else in my situation whom I could talk to?
I am the BW and H won't come back to me at all. Married 15 years, know each other 25 in total. We have two sons, both still living at home - 21 and 16. H's OW finished with him after our d-day phone call and moved home. I don't know if there's still contact or not but H vows he is still in love with her and won't come home to me even though he's not with her (he's still living in my city).
I don't understand it - he didn't leave me for the first 3 years of their affair and then was with me on/off for the next two. Now he's not with her at all but won't stay with me?
Can anyone else relate to this or advise me what to do? I still love my husband and want him to come home so we can work on our marriage.
Thank you
SW