DEEPLYSORRY PLEASE RESPOND - 05/18/05 05:29 PM
DS,
AS with many others you have touched me. I have'nt read all your posts but wished i had.I am the FBS. My H had a three month A with a co worker. I found out around X-mas.Since this hestopped contact has a new job and we have found a love that was lost years ago. I am 31 he is 30. We have been together since we were 14.I think you might be the one who can help me.after reading your posts in the begining you sounded just like my H. I do believe how sorry he is. The card your H gave you i picked the same one out but thought it was to soon. Now i wished i gottin it.My H and i never were able to open up with eachother.Towards the end of last yr when this A started We was never home he worked full time with over time and went to school full time with alot of homework. So he was very stressed.Then add his A on top he was even more stressed.I won't excuse him but this Ow told him and others her H beat her and they were getting a D. Also told my H time after time she wanted to have sex with him and i would'nt find out.I quess in Nov he gave in.
He told me he did'nt think that i loved him anymore and all this OW told him was good things about himself. That thing about me not loving him i believe because i did'nt think he loves me. I tried at the end of Nov to write him and was afraid to give it to him. We hardly said those three little words.And come to find out we were both very much in love with eachother> That made things worse on his part.We found this love we never thought was there.
My big thing now is it took up until a few weeks ago for everything to come out.He said it was only once they tried to have sex and i quess it was five. The other thing i did'nt know he did go to her house.everything else i knew. The OW H made her call just when i got back on my feet. I told him stuff that she told everyone about them getyting a D and about him hitting her. Quess what she lied.She even tried telling me my H wanted to still Pursuse this. Which was a lie.
Reading your posts have helped me the most. Alot of people have negitive feed back on those who have cheated.My H is so very sorry. When i write this here not everyone has nothing good to say. I believe he will never even think of doing this again.This has detroyed him.He has changed as a person. And for the better.He is a much better father and a much better Husband.
From your point of view does it really hurt you to keep going over your A?
I try so hard to not bring it up. But i always do. I know it bothers him to talk about.He gets sick. Then he gets worried that i won't get better.We end up in tears. I really want to move on. I know we will be happy. He has givin up so mush in the past few months to make his family better. At one point he was even going to quit school. I wound'nt let him and now on Sat he will have his Bachlors Degree.He says hes not even excited about it.He has more imporant things to worry about.
He never loved this OW nor did she love him at least i don't think she did.The way it looks to me i don't want to say it but my H was used.Her H was always on the road.
After there last call we changed our phone number. I want to move on.
Is there advice you can give me. I believe how very sorry you are. I believe how very sorry my H is.I also hate to admitt this but if this A did'nt happened he would not of realized how very much we loved eachother.
Did it take you a while to get everything out? My H says he cound'nt tell me everything because he was afraid he would lose what he just found. He does say everything is out.He has also said this before.He says there is no more to tell.
Any Advice
Lastinglove
Thanks
AS with many others you have touched me. I have'nt read all your posts but wished i had.I am the FBS. My H had a three month A with a co worker. I found out around X-mas.Since this hestopped contact has a new job and we have found a love that was lost years ago. I am 31 he is 30. We have been together since we were 14.I think you might be the one who can help me.after reading your posts in the begining you sounded just like my H. I do believe how sorry he is. The card your H gave you i picked the same one out but thought it was to soon. Now i wished i gottin it.My H and i never were able to open up with eachother.Towards the end of last yr when this A started We was never home he worked full time with over time and went to school full time with alot of homework. So he was very stressed.Then add his A on top he was even more stressed.I won't excuse him but this Ow told him and others her H beat her and they were getting a D. Also told my H time after time she wanted to have sex with him and i would'nt find out.I quess in Nov he gave in.
He told me he did'nt think that i loved him anymore and all this OW told him was good things about himself. That thing about me not loving him i believe because i did'nt think he loves me. I tried at the end of Nov to write him and was afraid to give it to him. We hardly said those three little words.And come to find out we were both very much in love with eachother> That made things worse on his part.We found this love we never thought was there.
My big thing now is it took up until a few weeks ago for everything to come out.He said it was only once they tried to have sex and i quess it was five. The other thing i did'nt know he did go to her house.everything else i knew. The OW H made her call just when i got back on my feet. I told him stuff that she told everyone about them getyting a D and about him hitting her. Quess what she lied.She even tried telling me my H wanted to still Pursuse this. Which was a lie.
Reading your posts have helped me the most. Alot of people have negitive feed back on those who have cheated.My H is so very sorry. When i write this here not everyone has nothing good to say. I believe he will never even think of doing this again.This has detroyed him.He has changed as a person. And for the better.He is a much better father and a much better Husband.
From your point of view does it really hurt you to keep going over your A?
I try so hard to not bring it up. But i always do. I know it bothers him to talk about.He gets sick. Then he gets worried that i won't get better.We end up in tears. I really want to move on. I know we will be happy. He has givin up so mush in the past few months to make his family better. At one point he was even going to quit school. I wound'nt let him and now on Sat he will have his Bachlors Degree.He says hes not even excited about it.He has more imporant things to worry about.
He never loved this OW nor did she love him at least i don't think she did.The way it looks to me i don't want to say it but my H was used.Her H was always on the road.
After there last call we changed our phone number. I want to move on.
Is there advice you can give me. I believe how very sorry you are. I believe how very sorry my H is.I also hate to admitt this but if this A did'nt happened he would not of realized how very much we loved eachother.
Did it take you a while to get everything out? My H says he cound'nt tell me everything because he was afraid he would lose what he just found. He does say everything is out.He has also said this before.He says there is no more to tell.
Any Advice
Lastinglove
Thanks