WH won't give up - 01/22/06 03:32 PM
Many of u have probably read my thread about my repeat offender husband who has had multiple "inappropriate relationships" throughout our 12 year marriage ranging from Emotional Infidelity to an 8 year affair. I recently discovered two new indiscretions which has finally pushed me past the ability to reconcile.
He is in therapy and wants to do better and work it out. I want out. The damage and pain is too deep. I can never trust him completely again. Even if I could, it would take YEARS of therapy. Other than him going to IC I haven't seen any difference in his behavior and thought process than before which makes it likely that he will do it again.
However, he won't give up. He continues to attempt to engage me in conversations about how hard he is working to improve himself and how he doesn't want to break up the family. Yeah, well he should have thought about that every time he picked up a woman in a club or had oral sex with a co-worker at a company meeting in October.
How do I get him to understand that his damage can't be repaired and that we need to focus on moving on for our 2 young children.
Help!
He is in therapy and wants to do better and work it out. I want out. The damage and pain is too deep. I can never trust him completely again. Even if I could, it would take YEARS of therapy. Other than him going to IC I haven't seen any difference in his behavior and thought process than before which makes it likely that he will do it again.
However, he won't give up. He continues to attempt to engage me in conversations about how hard he is working to improve himself and how he doesn't want to break up the family. Yeah, well he should have thought about that every time he picked up a woman in a club or had oral sex with a co-worker at a company meeting in October.
How do I get him to understand that his damage can't be repaired and that we need to focus on moving on for our 2 young children.
Help!