As long as there is this wall and distance, they need to ask their father why he is being stubborn and putting a strange woman ahead of his own children. He needs to hear their questions.
I did try and bring that into the mix. DD kept saying she really wanted to see her Dad. I just responded that she needed to tell him that, then. He needs to know that you want to see him.
Btw, why should you bring the children to him? He should come and get them.
I only suggested it because he has been using money and time as an excuse not to see them. I thought by offering to meet half way that it would cut time and expense in half for him and dilute that excuse. In hindsight, it probably was not a good idea. I should have just let sleeping dogs lie. (no pun intended <img src="/ubbt/images/graemlins/smile.gif" alt="" />)
Do you have a court order NOT allowing visitation out of state?
No there is no court order, but it is limited to one weekened a month. A weekend makes them visiting there almost impossible because of the distance.
And this is what I don't get. He not only agreed to the one weekend a month, he suggessted it because at the time his work schedule was bringing him within visiting distance about that regularly. But he knew that would not last, it was a temporary situation. It seems that if he had had any long term goals of having visitation in VA, he would have asked for a longer period of time. And secondly, he very easily and voluntarily agreed not to have the kids visit in VA. I simply voiced my concerns and he immeditely agreed not to have them visit there. No court order, no nothing. And of course, if it is tht important to him he could always petition the court to have the temp parenting plan modified. I kind of believe that OW is pressuring him not to visit here so as to limit contact with me.
I also wonder if he has not taken it to court because he is afraid that it might snowball into getting the divorce finalized. That a judge will just go ahead and say...let's finally get this settled for good. I know that is the reason I have not pushed for a court order...don't want to rock the boat and remind the court that this divorce has been sitting untouched for over a year now. In March we had a status call...where our attys had to go in front of the judge and let him know how we plan to proceed and if we are ready to set a trial date or settle. I am almost embarrsed to say that I have no idea what happened at the hearing. I haven't called my lawyer because it costs $$ to do that and I am assuming that the court would inform me if any date had been set. Anyway, that was six weeks ago...if he wanted to set a date that would have been the time to do it.