Trying to find out if what I think is true - 08/12/06 08:37 AM
Please be patient as I finally have enough nerve to post and will need some time to learn the ropes here.
I'm 39 weeks pregnant with #3. Each of my pregnancies I've always had tremendous fears that DH was cheating on me. It most likely was my fault due to the pregnancy hormones, looking & feeling fat, uncomfortable, wild imagination, etc.
This pregnancy is worse. A few months ago I noticed large blocks of time he couldn't account for. Times I've called his work and he wasn't around. He left his ring home one day (could have been an accident although we've been married 9 years next month).
What has really upset me recently happend last night and tonight. Last night I got into bed after he fell asleep and he was on my side of the bed so I brushed up against him and he said "ohhhh, so your trying to steal my pencils" which was said in a very suggestive way and he started to hug me. In the morning he said he had no recollection of that. I asked him if a female was flirting with him at work but he denied it.
Tonight really scared me. 4am the phone rings and a woman is on the other end saying she is a friend of mine. Long story short she won't give me her name and wasn't too happy when I said I was pregnant and didn't need crank calls at 4am. DH picks up the phone and starts talking to her (I'm in the next room). She tells him her name, where she is, what she's doing, and is crying. After he hangs up he calls the police to see if they can find her and see whats going on.
I causally said to DH "oh I hope your girlfriend is ok". He flew off the handle and is really mad at me.
Here is the deal. This could all be my imagination, my fluctuating hormones, the fact that I have a 8 1/2 lb baby in my belly and I've been rejected from the hospital twice because the contractions I'm continually having aren't opening up my cervix and I'm due in a week.
I have his password to his private email acct but he could have others. I'm going to see what keylogger is all about. My DH & I have known each other for 15 years (college sweethearts), married 9 next month and he isn't the type to cheat. Ok, that sounded lame!
What do I do next? Wait for concrete information? How do I get it? Will all this blow over after I have the baby & get back into shape? Do you think this is all in my imagination? Thank you for any advice.
I'm 39 weeks pregnant with #3. Each of my pregnancies I've always had tremendous fears that DH was cheating on me. It most likely was my fault due to the pregnancy hormones, looking & feeling fat, uncomfortable, wild imagination, etc.
This pregnancy is worse. A few months ago I noticed large blocks of time he couldn't account for. Times I've called his work and he wasn't around. He left his ring home one day (could have been an accident although we've been married 9 years next month).
What has really upset me recently happend last night and tonight. Last night I got into bed after he fell asleep and he was on my side of the bed so I brushed up against him and he said "ohhhh, so your trying to steal my pencils" which was said in a very suggestive way and he started to hug me. In the morning he said he had no recollection of that. I asked him if a female was flirting with him at work but he denied it.
Tonight really scared me. 4am the phone rings and a woman is on the other end saying she is a friend of mine. Long story short she won't give me her name and wasn't too happy when I said I was pregnant and didn't need crank calls at 4am. DH picks up the phone and starts talking to her (I'm in the next room). She tells him her name, where she is, what she's doing, and is crying. After he hangs up he calls the police to see if they can find her and see whats going on.
I causally said to DH "oh I hope your girlfriend is ok". He flew off the handle and is really mad at me.
Here is the deal. This could all be my imagination, my fluctuating hormones, the fact that I have a 8 1/2 lb baby in my belly and I've been rejected from the hospital twice because the contractions I'm continually having aren't opening up my cervix and I'm due in a week.
I have his password to his private email acct but he could have others. I'm going to see what keylogger is all about. My DH & I have known each other for 15 years (college sweethearts), married 9 next month and he isn't the type to cheat. Ok, that sounded lame!
What do I do next? Wait for concrete information? How do I get it? Will all this blow over after I have the baby & get back into shape? Do you think this is all in my imagination? Thank you for any advice.