Almost year 7 in recovery - 02/01/07 02:01 PM
I don't post much anymore, but promised myself I would stop by from time to time. My H and I have been in recovery for almost 7 years. I like to keep attached to MB because I have learned valuable information that has improved my marriage, and I never want to forget where we came form. I also want to be a source of inspiration.
Our recovery is complete. You make a choice after a period of time to stay and make it work or to leave. Most people are content with their decision, even if they had no choice, within two years.
I can only speak for us, but I have to say that the memory of the affair is only history now. It changed our marriage forever, but it is a great marriage. We have become more loving, more successful and our children are thriving. We have learned to keep the flame alive and spend time as a couple. We have learned to give and take.
I have to say the one great lesson I have learned is that love is a gift that I can give. Forgiveness is possible, and life can be beautiful again. You know what they say, if life gives you lemons, make lemonaide. I cannot tell you how sweet it is now. The affair was a bump on a long road.
So no matter where your road leads you, take this as a personal growth experience. Happiness is again around the corner. Patience and time. Make no quick decisions-all you have is time. Take 6 months to digest what is happening. Read, read, read.
Best wishes and hello to all...Jersey Girl
Our recovery is complete. You make a choice after a period of time to stay and make it work or to leave. Most people are content with their decision, even if they had no choice, within two years.
I can only speak for us, but I have to say that the memory of the affair is only history now. It changed our marriage forever, but it is a great marriage. We have become more loving, more successful and our children are thriving. We have learned to keep the flame alive and spend time as a couple. We have learned to give and take.
I have to say the one great lesson I have learned is that love is a gift that I can give. Forgiveness is possible, and life can be beautiful again. You know what they say, if life gives you lemons, make lemonaide. I cannot tell you how sweet it is now. The affair was a bump on a long road.
So no matter where your road leads you, take this as a personal growth experience. Happiness is again around the corner. Patience and time. Make no quick decisions-all you have is time. Take 6 months to digest what is happening. Read, read, read.
Best wishes and hello to all...Jersey Girl